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Falling in love with someone you have never met

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Falling in love with someone you have never met

Is it possible to fall in love with someone before you even see him?

Yes it’s possible anyone of us can come up with an imaginary person in his mind who matches all of the items in his subconscious criteria then fall in love with him(see love psychology).

I received many questions from different people asking me about the same issue. They see someone in their dreams, they become attached to him but they have never met him!! This article intends to explain the weird phenomenon of loving a person before even seeing him.

Why does this happen?

Your subconscious mind is the part of you that has all information about your background, beliefs, past experiences and values. As I mentioned before in the psychology of falling in love section those four elements are the ones that shape the criteria your potential partner must match.

Because the subconscious mind has got the elements that form the criteria that must be found in your future partner it can figure out the type of person who can meet this criteria. Your subconscious mind creates an image of a person who fulfills these criteria then makes you attached to him even if you have never seen him before.

After the subconscious mind decides that this is the suitable person for you it then starts to inform you about this fact But since the subconscious mind can’t talk, it uses other channels to send you this message. Below are two examples of these channels:

  • Mysterious lack of interest in long term relationships with all of the people you know
  • Dreaming of that person many times

how to respond to this message?

So what you should do if you found that you are in love with someone you have never seen before?

My advice is to double check your unconscious criteria that made you love this person then see whether it’s a healthy criteria or not.

For example, if you wanted someone who is assertive because you lack self confidence then this is not a healthy criterion. Fixing your self confidence problem in this case will result in changing your criteria and you may find yourself suddenly losing interest in that person you loved not because he changed but because your criteria changed.

If you found that the criteria is healthy and that its not based on compensation or unmet needs then its time to check whether the criteria is realistic or not.

If you found that its not realistic then beware, you may wait forever and still you wont meet that imaginary person. (see Relationship dissatisfaction for more information ).

If you were lucky and the criteria were realistic then my advice is to wait and be patient because one day you might find a similar person to the one you dream of:)

The book How to make someone fall in love with you was released by 2knowmyself.com; the book will dramatically increase your chance of letting someone fall in love with you. 2knowmyself is, without doubt, the only complete source for the psychology of falling in love on the whole web. If you dare to challenge this statement then check out the psychology of falling in love section and you will discover it yourself.

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