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Fear and walking slowly

It's something that's probably happened to all of us; when you're going to a place we're afraid of, we tend to walk in a slower pace, the closer we get to that destination.
This reaction has a simple explanation: your subconscious mind is trying to protect you from that fearful situation by preventing you from reaching it or at least by slowing you down; hence the small steps.

Fear, Courage and body language

When you feel afraid, your subconscious mind tries to find a way to protect you. So if you are walking towards the source of your fear, your subconscious mind will try to slow you down, hoping you won't reach it.

If you think that the reaction of your subconscious mind isn't very logical, you're right! The subconscious mind doesn't care much about logic and that's just the way it operates. (Check out this guide to the rules of the subconscious mind.).

I am not afraid to deal with new situations!

The opposite happens when you feel confident or courageous. You'll be taking wide and sure steps towards your destination, simply because you are not afraid to deal with any new situation. You are confident enough in your abilities to face anything you find in your way and so your subconscious mind has no need to protect you or slow you down. This is the body language of courage.

As you've just seen, very slight changes to your body language can have a big effect on your relationships with people. In my book, How to make someone fall in love with you, I elaborated on how slight changes, such as maintaining a straight back can increase the chances of having people fall in love with you. The more confident you appear, the more attractive you will become, and nothing can make you appear more confident than a straight back.

Did that help?

Yes, but tell me more about body language.

No, I have many fears and I want to learn how to deal with them.

No, I lack courage. What can I do about that?

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