Building healthy relationships

Before you know how to build a healthy relationship you must first ask yourself what is a healthy relationship? a healthy relationship is a relationship that allows the couple involved in it to grow, to achieve their goals, to increase their self esteem,to be satisfied and happy.

Unfortunately lots of relationships are far away from being healthy, some are abusive relationships where one partner destroys the other's self esteem, some are jails where one partner is a control freak who enjoys controlling the other's freedom while some others are ordinary relationships that have both couples unsatisfied and unhappy but trying to act normal for the sake of the kids. (see relationship dissatisfaction)

Maintaining a healthy relationship

Maintaining a healthy relationship requires a lot of effort, discipline, intelligence and hard work. The following are some of the vital points that usually couples don't notice, thus resulting in an unhealthy relationship:

• Suppressing your emotions :

Suppressed emotions don't disappear and time can't heal, It only allow the wounds to grow. If you were hurt by your partner and you kept suppressing your emotions you will reach a point where you will become dissatisfied with the relationship and you might ask for a divorce. In my book The ultimate guide to maintaining a healthy relationship i described how channeling your suppressed emotions correctly can prevent relationship dissatisfaction, by preventing such accumulations in your subconscious mind you will be making sure that you are not misunderstood, not treated badly and not being taken for granted.

• The bond between you: People can easily program each other's minds, if all of your friends kept telling that your partner is a bad person you will end up believing in what they said. The prevention of such of a case is very easy but being indifferent towards this matter will surely result in a breakup. In order to prevent this external programming from happening you must take the following actions, 1)make sure that the relation between you and your partner is way stronger than the relationship between you and any of your relatives or friends. 2) never tell others about your fights even if you were feeling hurt. 3) know that others can't judge your partner because they can never see the full picture, they only make a judgment based on what they hear from you.
• Openness Vs honesty: Openness and honesty are not the same thing. Honesty is answering the questions your partner asks you without lying but openness is telling your partner everything without even being asked. If you want to maintain a healthy relationship then you must be open with your partner, tell him everything, never hide something even if he didn't ask you and never act in a certain way without telling him why you are acting that way.

Final words about healthy relationships

Even though those advices were very strong, still, you need lots of effort and discipline to stick to them. Reading them on your own might be useful, but its a must that your spouse sees them too so that you can both help in maintaining a healthy relationship.

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