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Do narcissists hate being ignored?

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Do narcissists hate being ignored?

From the outside they appear superior and invulnerable but what about their inside?
Some people think that narcissists don't care about being ignored because of the large number of people who seem to worship them but that's completely wrong.

If rejection hurts a normal person a bit then it kills a narcissist! Narcissists became the way they are because of the shame they suffered from earlier in their lives.

you might wonder what would make a narcissist feel ashamed? After all he seems to have everything! In fact a narcissist feels ashamed of being himself and that's why he does his best to hide his defects by striving for superiority.

How the narcissist is born

If a child was abused at childhood or neglected in such a way that made him ashamed of who he is then he will try to cope with that shame in the best available way. Some people will become socially withdrawn while others will chose the other defense mechanism which is becoming narcissists.

A narcissist will start exaggerating his own importance and would stop listening to anyone who tries to point out his flaws.

That's why ignoring a narcissist hurts him so much. Its because the act of ignoring him is seen as an attempt to devalue his exaggerated worth!

In the Solid Self confidence program i said that the narcissist feels ashamed of being himself and because of that he tries to cover his flaws by outperforming everyone else around him, his logic at this point is something like: If i am superior then no one will dare to point out my flaws.

When you ignore a narcissist you actually remind him of his childhood shame and that's why rejection hurts him badly.

How the narcissist deals with those who ignore him

The narcissist will devalue those who don't agree with him or those who point out his flaws. When being ignored he will do one of two things:

  • 1) Label the person who ignored him as inferior and thus give himself a reason not to think about the rejection
  • 2) If that person who rejected him appeared too worthy to be considered inferior then the narcissist will then do his best to take revenge. Its so common that a narcissist treats you badly just to show you that you are not important to him.

Did a narcissist ignore you?

If a narcissist ignored you then don't be sad, just understand that he is doing it to protect his hurt ego.

narcissists get along with people pleasers who sacrifice their own rights to please others. If a narcissist ignored you then you should be feeling good about yourself for it means that you don't sacrifice your rights to please others.

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