The Ultimate Source for Self Understanding

fear of approaching someone

Do you like or love someone?
Do you have fears of approaching him?
Does your fight or flight response get triggered as soon as you try to talk to him?

why do you become anxious when you approach him/her

The reasons for getting anxious on approaching a certain person is because this person is of a big importance to you, this makes your subconscious mind put much weight to how you do act or talk in his presence and so you feel anxious.

Another reason for being anxious when approaching him/her (which is a conclusion from the first reason) is that you fear to get rejected by him/her not to feel pain, so to put it in simple words you can’t handle to be rejected by that person and so you feel anxious when he is there.

you may become anxious on important events too

When you have an event that is of a big importance to you, like for example when having a job interview that will determine your career path you may become more anxious too, again you fear to get rejected at that situation because you will not be able to tolerate the loss that may happen.

how to deal with those feelings?

First of all know that feeling anxious or afraid is something normal but when those feelings become so intense that they hinder you from performing well in your daily activities then you must deal with them.
Dealing with these kinds of emotions involves the same steps for dealing with fears and anxiety, if you learned how to deal with your fears and worries, you wont feel that anxious when approaching people.

did that help?

not until you tell me how to deal with anxiety

not until you tell me how to deal with fear.

well i fear approaching groups of people,why is that?