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When everyone rejects you

Do you feel like everyone around you is rejecting you?
Are people losing interest in you?
Are you eager for acceptance and love?

If the answer to any of these questions was yes then don’t worry, you just need to redefine the concept of everyone in your mind.

Everyone?

All you've got to do is ask yourself, is it really everyone or are they just a bunch of people whom I interact with quite often? In most cases you will find that you are being rejected by a small number of people, yet this number seems to be everyone because of the following reasons:

• You meet them often: The people you spend most of your time with will be your community; if they love you then you will think that everyone loves you and if they hate you then you may think that everybody is hating you. As you can see, a rejection from a few number of people that you regularly meet may appear to be a rejection from everyone
• They are important to you: When someone important to you rejects you, this could make the rejection of higher weight than if someone whom you don’t care about rejectes you. An important person is not only a person that you care for but could also be someone whose opinion you value deeply, even if you hate him.
• Spending less time with people who care about you: Actually you may be having lots of people who do care about you yet you may not be that interested in being with them and so you don't spend much time with them.

How to Get over these Feelings?

If you want to feel that most of your community loves you, then you should redistribute your time among people; spend more time with people who do care for you even if you are not that interested in them and spend less time with people who are not interested in you even if you do care for them.

By doing so, you will start feeling loved again because you will find that most of your community is caring for you. The mistake lots of people do is ignore those who are interested in them, all the while chasing after those who don’t; this gets them to feel like nobody cares for them although lots of people do.

Did that help?

Yes, but I still feel bad

But why do they reject me? Am I that bad?