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He Dumped Me

Did he dump you? Do you feel bad about it? Wondering whether he truly loved you or if he was just fooling you?

If your answers are yes, this article will show you the real reasons behind these bad feelings and train of thought.

Self-confidence and Break-ups

In many cases people fall in love with someone else just to compensate for their unmet needs or for their inferiorities. In other words, they don’t actually love the other person, they love the feeling of compensating for any of their percieved short-comings. For example, a girl with poor self image will definitely love a handsome guy just to feel that she can be loved by someone who is good looking and has no self image problems.

But what if he dumps her? Naturally, she will feel down, but the question is why?? Because she lost her source of compensation, she just can’t imagine being able to find another handsome guy who loves her back. It's actually her inferiorities that are making her feel bad and not the break-up itself. Yes, she may really have loved her partner, but if it were for love only then she would have fully recovered from the break-up in a shorter time.

Face Your Real Problems

Rushing into a relationship is something that will provide you with relief but will never truly solve the problem. It will just suppress the symptoms or make them less intense, but as soon you break up with your partner, the problems appears again. If you want to get over these feelings of doubt and sadness forever, you need to fix your corrupted self image and learning how to accept yourself. Only then will you not feel that affected in the event of a break-up.

Of course this does not only apply to having a poor self image. This concept spans all cases that are related to loving someone just to compensate for anything that you lack and not out of a true caring for the person.

Lack of self-confidence is the root cause of ninety nine percent of the problems people face in life. Trace any problem you have ever faced to its root and you will find lack of self-confidence as the original cause. Whether it's a break-up or a career problem, fixing your self-confidence can probably make it disappear. If the girl in the previous example had been more confident, she wouldn’t have needed someone to reassure her of her looks and so may have not fell in love with that person at all.

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