Wish I Wasn't Ugly

Wish I Wasn’t Ugly

My name is Ben, and I am not that handsome. Maybe I have a poor self image or maybe I truly am unattractive, but in the end the results are the same:
I get too shy when I approach new people, my pulse races and I feel that people will reject me before I even start to talk. This prevents me from being comfortable while talking and so I end up appearing clumsy in front of everyone.

I think I am better than this, I am a good person and am well educated; I could talk about a wide variety of topics without being thought of as boring or clumsy, but my looks are limiting me socially. If I were better looking, everything would have been different.
Ben.

Poor Self Image and Limited Potential

It’s Clear that Ben’s poor self image is constraining his potential. He could have performed much better socially if he were handsome right? The answer is no. It’s a lie. The truth is, Ben was fooled by his mind!!!!

If Ben were charming, he still would've considered himself the same person, but “looking ugly” is the excuse that he has found for himself for failing in establishing successful relationships. Every one of us tends to find some excuse to calm himself when he fails in doing something, whether this excuse was something like “I am boring”, “they are not nice people” or “I wasn’t in the mood”, still it serves the same purpose: convincing yourself that you couldn’t have done any better.

But there is always a problem with these excuses that tends to make them insufficient for solving the riddle. All of these excuses are based on temporary behavior that can be changed, for example, the excuse of not being in the mood will collapse if the same behaviour is repeated while being in the mood.

Your mind wants to make you feel good, it wants to make you feel as if you can't do anything about it, so what can it do? The best thing it can do is to find an excuse that can’t be changed, and as you may have guessed, that excuse is "Looking Ugly" or any other self image related excuse.

The Truth

Just look at your past; haven’t you ever made a successful relationship with someone without being affected by your so called "bad looks"? Of course it happened before, so why are you trying to convince yourself that you cannot repeat it? Because there is something that is preventing you from being confident while talking to new people, the best thing is to relate this to your looks in order not to feel guilty, a very intelligent trick played by your mind in order to comfort you, but far from the truth of the situation.

Even if you haven't had any successful relationship before, just look around you: Is everyone who is having successful relationships handsome? Of course not. I bet you know one or two other guys who are very successful socially yet don’t look like models!!

Simply put, even if you are not that handsome you could still be loved, be popular and have lots of friends. The only thing that is limiting you now is that false excuse that your mind has chosen to explain what’s happening.

Discard that false excuse today and you will discover that you were fooled by your own mind. I know people who did so and were amazed to find themselves having successful relationships with newly made friends. It's all about what you believe you can do.

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