contrary to common beliefs lots of the emotions we experience in our daily lives are a direct result of our choices.
I know that this might sound unbelievable at first but here is an example that will make it clear. I want you to decide now that the next time you find yourself about to feel stressed you will control your emotions instead of becoming stressed.
The next time you face a stressful situation the following will happen:
1) At the beginning you will feel stressed a little bit
2) If you remembered your decision you are going to say something like "no no i won't allow myself to feel stressed"
3) you won't feel that stressed
4) Finally you will end up feeling stressed again because you will find that you dont have any other option.
So if in the end you won't be able to choose your emotions after this struggle then why bother trying? Read this article to know how to control your emotions.
I am sure you noticed that you succeeded in controlling your emotions a little bit but on finding no other options you gave in to the emotion.
So what you can do here is provide your subconscious mind with other options and it will pick the best option it finds upon facing the same situation. The other option could be something like a new belief like "stress won't help me" or "i will be able to finish my task in a better way if i didn't become stressed."
know that when you are under stress or when you experience an unwanted emotion you won't be able to access all of your mind's resources and so you may end up taking an emotional decision instead of a rational one.
You should also remind yourself that prolonged bad emotions can result in depression. In my book, The ultimate guide to getting over depression i explained how depression can be the result of prolonged bad emotions that you are not dealing with.
learning how to relax is one of things that can help you much in dealing with a stressful condition. learning to be more relaxed will make you more in control and will reduce the intensity of the stress you have.
As soon as you learn a new relaxation technique your subconscious mind will consider relaxation one of the options available and so it may choose it instead of choosing stress.
This is how your mind works, it looks for the best option available then it applies it even if that option was a bad emotion. Just make sure you always have another option other than experiencing the unwanted emotion and you won't have any problem in choosing your emotions.
Emotions can be controlled and you can choose to experience the emotions you like provided that you understand this concept and apply it well.
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