Thinking strategies that lead to worrying

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

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In spite of its extreme importance worrying is one of the most under-researched topics on the internet. If you want to get what i mean just search for 'dealing with worrying' on the internet and see if you can find any useful information. Most probably you will end up finding general information that will still leave you totally clueless.

This is why i started a worrying article series where i try to cover all the aspects of that problem and shed light on effective ways that can help you deal with it.

In this article i will talk about the thinking strategies that can lead to worrying. worrying isn't something that just happens because before it does many thoughts quickly pass in your brain. If throughout the years you developed one or more wrong thinking patterns then certainly those thinking patters will promote a lot of worrying no matter what you do.

Thinking patters that lead to worrying

Here are some very popular thinking patters that can lead to worrying:

  • 1) Living on the defensive side of live: Let's suppose you have 1000 Dollars and that this is all what you have got. Now if you lived on the defensive side of life you will keep thinking of ways to prevent those 1000 Dollars from getting lost. In such a case your major concern will become preventing bad things from leading to money loss and as a result you will only think about the negative possibilities that can lead to such losses. Moreover if any threat happened to you then you won't have an option except worrying simply because according to your strategy your main purpose is to just defend what you have. Now compare this to a person who has 1,000 and who is actively working on making them 10,000. Now do you think the later will experience the same amount of worrying as you do? Of course not.
  • 2) Being stuck in the past: If you are stuck in the past in such a way that you don't have crystal clear future plans then you will always keep worrying about bad events. Because you don't have a plan to improve your life and because you are just stuck thinking about the things you lost then probably you will keep worrying about the possibility that the past repeats itself. On the other hand when you have a plan that you trust and when you focus more on improving the future you will worry much less. See Anxiety is just an internal conflict
  • 3) You ran out of strategies: The state of worrying indicates that you ran out of strategies in such a way that you are helplessly waiting for the circumstances to be in your favor. This kind of wishful thinking also results in helplessness since it encourages you to just wait for the results. Compare this to someone who is actively seeking a way out or a totally different alternative. Let's say that two people have serious cancers. If the first waited in bed while the second kept researching the problem all day he will worry less since he will feel more in control
  • 4) Filling information gaps: When most people face problems they try to fill the information gaps by guessing what might happen without being guided by the right knowledge. When you fill information gaps you will usually fall prey to worrying unless you are extremely optimistic. Now the right strategy would be getting proper information from credible sources as fast as you can not to give your brain a chance to worry about possible negative scenarios. See The ultimate solution to end worrying
  • 5) Getting exposed to negative triggers: In my previous article Why worrying is one form of OCD i said that worrying can happen when a certain negative trigger points your attention to the possibility of a bad thing happening. Now in such a case your interpretation of that trigger is the main problem that caused worrying and not the trigger itself. Avoiding some triggers should be an important goal for you in addition to working on adjusting your perception of triggers that can't be avoided

Change your thinking strategies

This article is considered part two of my article The real reasons behind worrying which explains why the brain reverts to worrying in many cases instead of thinking about something else. Make sure to check it out for more information.

Now as you saw your thinking patters are responsible for a great deal of the worrying you are experiencing in life. Trying to stop worrying by using lame strategies such as 'telling the negative thoughts to stop' or 'embracing uncertainty' will certainly never work.

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