What causes feelings of entitlement

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

I deserve the best

I am not like them
I have a bigger purpose than them
I am destined for greatness and prosperity

Those are the words of a person who has a strong sense of entitlement. For the first instance it might seem like a confident and ambitious person talking but when you look deeper you might find that this person is suffering from an entitlement complex.

An entitlement complex in simple words is one form of Narcissism where a person believes that they are too special to the extent that they are entitled for greatness and glorious achievements.

While self confidence is a great virtue an entitlement complex is a destructive feeling that can make a person extremely unhappy and dissatisfied with their lives.

What causes feelings of entitlement

You might be wondering why would a person believe that they are entitled to achieving more than anybody else. Here are some possible reasons:

  • 1) Inferiority feelings : If a person felt too inferior about themselves then their defense mechanisms might kick in to help them feel worthy. If someone felt inferior at some point of their lives then they might start to believe that they are destined for a higher purpose and as a result develop the feelings of entitlement.
  • 2) A defense mechanism: If a person was mistreated by people ,especially the significant ones, then a certain defense mechanism might kick in to help the person feel important. In such a case the person might feel that they are entitled for greatness. See also Ego defense mechanisms
  • 3) Being spoiled: When a child gets spoiled by their parents they might start to believe that they are special. These feelings of being special can help the spoiled child develop a sense of entitlement. The fact that the child always gets whatever they want makes them believe more that life should always work the way they want.
  • 4) Failure to grow past a certain point: According to one theory all children develop a sense of entitlement at certain points of their lives. However those who develop normally learn how to have empathy for others and they learn that they are no longer the center of the world. Some people fail to get past this stage and so they live with the sense of entitlement. See also Egotism
  • 5) Narcissism: A strong sense of entitlement is one strong sign of narcissism. Narcissist don't only feel special but they also believe that they are entitled for great futures and glorious achievements. A typical Narcissist might believe that they must get the best out of everything simply because they think that they deserve this. See also Signs of narcissism - how to spot a narcissist.

Over confidence or a sense of entitlement?

There is a very fine line between being overly confident and developing a sense of entitlement that it can sometimes be very hard to tell the difference between both.

Confident people believe in themselves and in their abilities and this makes them believe more in their ability to succeed. Those who have a sense of entitlement on the other hand believe that they are destined for success no matter what happens.

You must find out what type of person are you if you believe you must succeed because a sense of entitlement can be truly destructive.

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