Why narcissists ignore you

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

I have been there

In my previous article How i got over narcissism i explained how i managed to get over my narcissistic tendencies and to become a normal person again.

The fact that i saw narcissism from both the inside the and the outside has helped me understand it in a much better way. Many of the things that a narcissist does can seem too confusing especially for people who can hardly guess the way of thinking of a narcissist.

Many people wonder who do narcissists ignore others.
And might seem even more confusing is why would a narcissist pursue someone then suddenly disappear and stop pursuing them.

In this article i will explain to you why narcissists act this way.

Why narcissists ignore you

In order to understand why narcissists sometimes ignore others you first have to understand how a narcissist thinks. A part of the narcissist tells them that they are better than others and that most people are inferior to them.

Based on that way of thinking the narcissist will believe that they deserve a certain level of respect from others. A typical narcissist would expect to be respected and even glorified by both friends and strangers.

Now that you understand this concept it will be easy for you to understand the next points:

  • 1) You didn't glorify them: If you didn't glorify the narcissist, praise them or respect them the way they want then probably they are going to devalue you. Devaluation is the process where a narcissist decides in one second that a person is considered worthless. When that happens the narcissist will literary consider the person non-existent. The narcissist might not even say hi to that person again if they met them. See How to control a narcissist
  • 2) You ignored them: Ignoring a narcissist is a like a direct insult to their egos. Narcissists don't see human interactions the way we see them. Ignoring a typical narcissist is like passing by the president of a country without even looking towards them. Narcissists get crazy when people ignore them and they usually hate people for it. See Ignoring a narcissist
  • 3) They were after the narcissistic supply: All narcissists need some kind of ego boost all the time in order to keep their inflated egos happy, this is called the narcissistic supply. Narcissists can manipulate people, lure them or try to attract them in order to get this narcissistic supply. It's no wonder that many narcissists become players. The player narcissist might do their best to attach someone to them to get the narcissistic supply then they might ignore them just to seek a new target. See also Why do i always attract narcissists & 3 Reasons players are mentally unstable.
  • 4) You hurt their ego: The bigger the target the easier it is to hit it with a stone. Because a narcissist's ego is too big you might hit it accidentally without noticing. Narcissists are more vulnerable than you can imagine. One single comment or one ambiguous look can hurt the narcissist's ego greatly and motivate them to seek revenge. When that happens the narcissist will totally ignore you in order to punish you

Beware of narcissists

Once you realize that a person is a narcissist you need to pay special attention when dealing with them if you want to keep them on your side. One single small mistake can result in lots of tensions and ultimately in being ignored by the narcissist.

The good news i have for you is that some narcissists can immediately forget everything you did as long as you start praising them again. So if you care about your relationship with a narcissist it might not be too late to fix it.

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