Why Meditation never worked for you

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Meditation is a self understanding tool

So many people use meditation as a strategy that can help them deal with stress and unwanted emotions. Mediation can be a good method to help a person get more understanding of the thoughts that are passing in their mind.

The biggest problem with mediation however is the way most people use it. So many people think that meditation is a direct soloution to their emotional problems where as meditation is only a self-understanding tool that can help a person know what the next step is.

What do you usually do when you feel like sleeping?
You certainly go to sleep.

Now suppose that you decided to deprive yourself of sleeping for 48 hours and then decided to mediate to help yourself feel better, will that ever work?

Of course this method will never work and this is exactly why so many people never get any results with meditation.

Why Meditation never worked for you

In my book The 5 Minute Happiness Formula i said that each emotion that the brain sends has specific purpose. When your brain sends you a certain emotion it wants you to satisfy a certain emotional need.

Just like the need to sleep is a physical need that you must satisfy there are also many emotional needs that you must satisfy. Now the catastrophic mistake people make when dealing with emotions is that they do everything possible to get rid of the emotion but satisfying the emotional need behind the emotion.

If you felt sad or depressed then decided to meditate to end the problem you would be doing nothing but distracting yourself. Most of the people who meditate try to identify their emotions then they try to detach themselves from them. See also How mindfulness can ruin your life.

This is the same exactly as trying to detach yourself from the desire to sleep when you haven't slept for two days. The important question you need to ask yourself is: Do i really need to sleep?

Yes of course you do and this is why your mind is so concerned that it made you feel sleepy. When meditation becomes a method that encourages you to ignore your emotions and to act if they are foreign purposeless things then you are never going to get any results. See Why emotions are just messages

How to use meditation properly

Meditation can be a great method that can help you get in touch with your deepest thoughts and emotions. So many people run on the auto-pilot mood that they are totally unaware of their emotions and thoughts.

When you get a better understanding of your emotions and thoughts you will become better able to understand your deep emotional needs. And once you understand your emotional needs the next step you should take, in order to be truly happy, will become crystal clear.

Meditation is thus a great method that can help you know what the next step is but it's never the final step needed to end emotional pain.

All of the happiness schools that depend heavily on the concept of forcing people to get detached from their emotions never work simply because the mind only sends a certain emotion when it is already very concerned about something.

You can't just ignore a basic need by acting like it doesn't exist.
This is exactly why meditation never worked for you.

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