why rejection is good for you

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Is rejection really bad?

It feels really bad to get rejected.
Not only you feel unloved, under appreciated and deserted but you might also feel worthless.

Some people lose a great deal of their self confidence as soon as they get rejected and the reason this happens is that they assume that they got rejected because they were not good enough. In a previous article i said that rejection hurts a lot when we give events a certain meaning.

In the Ultimate guide to becoming confident i said that the meaning we give to the events we go through is the main reason we sometimes feel bad after rejections.

But the important question here is: is rejection really a bad thing?
And can't rejection be a good a thing?
Let's find out together.

Rejection is a powerful force

Rejection is an extremely powerful force. If you directed this force inwards then you will feel very bad, get depressed and lose your confidence.

Any kind of emotional pain that you experience is actually a very powerful force. If this force was unbleached in the wrong direction then it's going to be very destructive.

But do you know what will happen if this force was put in the right direction?
This tremendous force can be turned into motivation, enthusiasm and a burning desire to succeed.

If you put the energy of rejection into the right direction then you will become eager to succeed and show those who rejected you that they were wrong.

So many of the famous success stories actually started with a rejection. A person got rejected then they decided to turn this rejection force into a motivational force. Shortly the person became too successful that the ones who rejected them realized that they were dead wrong. See also Do good people get rejected

Rejections are actually a good thing if you reacted to them properly.
Rejections can help you find your true self.
Rejections can motivate you do to miracles.
And rejections can provide you with enough energy to reach all of your goals.

The choice is yours

You might be wondering why not all people get motivated when they get rejected?
The answer is simple. It's all about the choice that the person makes.

You can either choose to believe that there is something wrong with you then lose your self confidence. Or you can either let those who rejected you realize that there was something wrong with them.

After getting rejected you have to get past the self-doubts phase and move on to the action-taking phase. If you started blaming yourself for the rejection you got then you might remain stuck at this phase for very long periods of time.

but if you decided to move forward and make real changes then sometime later you might realize that this rejection was actually a very good thing.

Here is how to make sure that rejection is always a good thing:

  • 1) End your self doubts: Yes of course you might have done something wrong but this doesn't mean that you are bad or defective. This doesn't also mean that those things can't be changed. Get past the self-doubts stage as fast as you can.
  • 2) Channel the energy properly: Once you get past the self-doubts phase you will have to channel the energy that you have properly. Create an action plan as soon as you can then start following it while you are still emotionally charged. See How to convince your subconscious mind to believe in your plans.

Rejection can either be a horrible event or one of the best things that happen to you.
The choice is yours.

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