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How to Stop Loving Someone You Cant Have

The reason you still can’t stop loving that person although you know that you can’t have him is that your subconscious mind didn’t fully accept what happened. Acceptance can only happen when the subconscious mind makes sure that the event is irreversible. Most people who want to stop loving someone prevent themselves from accepting the fact that they can’t have him by doing the following:

1-Visualizing the good old memories
2-Keeping all the things that reminds them of him (text messages, e-mails.. etc)
3-Never confront the person directly and so keep the door open for hope

All of these practices keep hope present and so prevent acceptance. If you want to stop loving that person you should first accept what happened by confronting him and making sure that he has no intentions to restore the relation. (see the article the anatomy of acceptance for more information on that topic)

The second thing you should do is deleting the mails, the text messages and removing everything that reminds you of him. The last thing is holding yourself from thinking about him, I know that sometimes thoughts flow involuntary, but at least you can prevent these involuntary thoughts from growing bigger. All of these actions will convince your subconscious mind that its over and so you will be able to stop loving him.

Is there any Body Better than Him?

One of the things that prevent you from stopping to love someone is thinking that this person is the one. If you think that way then ask yourself a question, is there anybody else on earth who is better than him? Its either there is someone you know or either there is someone you haven’t met yet, but definitely, he is the not the best person in the world, else everyone would have loved him. Instead of feeling sad or down promise yourself that you will find someone better than him. This will help you get rid of the false idea that he is the best person in the world and so it will help you to stop loving him.

In my book, How to get over anyone in few days i pointed out that one of the main reasons people fail to recover fast from breakups is that they have such beliefs as "the one" and "the soul mate", as soon as they realize that such things are non existent they recover ten times faster.

Subconscious Mind & Repetition

One of the strongest ways to convince your subconscious mind to believe in something is repetition. The more you repeat the fact that its over the more is this statement likely to turn into a belief (see the psychology of convincing for more information on that topic). If you want to stop loving someone then prevent yourself from repeating these phrases or from even thinking about them:

I can’t live without him
I can’t stop loving him
He is the only one I loved that much

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Still cant stop loving him?

Yes, what else can i do to Get Over him?

Yes, everything reminds me of him, how I can get rid of everything!!

Yes, he is the one, I can never stop loving him

Yes, I got dumped and it feels bad

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