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Why are some women controlling (Women who control men and husbands)

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Why are some women controlling (Women who control men and husbands)

Why are there controlling women out there?
Why do some women control their husbands?
Why do some women dominate men and control them?
Why are there bossy women?

I am sure you have noticed that there are some women out there who are control freaks. Those women do their best to control their husband and to keep him under their control.

Those women usually have the dominant role in the house and as a result the man is assigned the secondary role.

In the house where the woman is a dominant figure if the kids want to ask for something then they must go to their mom instead of their dad. In this article i will tell you why some women control men or their husbands.

Reasons some women control men or their husbands

Below are some psychological reasons that will explain to you why some women control men or their husbands:

  • The Woman was raised by a controlling mom: In one of my articles i explained how a monkey learned how to fear snakes when it saw another monkey becoming terrified when seeing a snake (see How fear is learned. Human beings can learn things in the same way, if a woman was raised in a house where her mother was the dominant and controlling figure in the family then the girl will grow up assuming that a woman should control her man.
  • Insecure women might become control freaks: In the Solid Self confidence program i said that when someone feels insecure he might start to control others in order to feel in control once again. Psychology is not a 1+1=2 science and so not every insecure woman will be a control freak but in some cases an insecure woman might try to feel secure by controlling her environment and this includes controlling her husband.
  • Masculine protest and controlling women: Masculine protest is a psychological term used to describe the case where a woman hates her feminine role as a result of feeling that its the inferior role (see Discrimination against women). Some of these women turn into control freaks in order to assume the superior role which is the role of a man.
  • Controlling women choose weak men: The previous point brings us to another very important point. Women who want to dominate men and control their husbands usually chose an easy target that can be controlled without much effort. This means that the woman who wants to control a man will look for a man who can easily be controlled

Indirect ways some women use to control men

Up until the previous paragraph i was talking about women who control their men directly by assuming the dominant role in the house however there are other indirect methods that some women use in order to control men without being bossy or appearing like a control freak.

  • Some women control their husbands using sex: In such a case the controlling woman uses sex as a method to put pressure on her husband and to force him to comply to her demands.
  • Some women control men by tears: Some women use tears to control men. They cry whenever a man refuses to comply to their demands and so make sure that they keep him under their control

In short a woman can control a man either directly or using indirect methods such as the ones described above.

How to deal with a bossy and controlling woman

If you are the husband or the man who is suffering from these control attempts then you have one of two options.

You should either help your woman understand the psychological needs that are motivating her to be a controlling women or you should either make her feel in control without complying to her demands. (see How to treat psychological disorders)

The first solution is not as easy as it sounds, no controlling woman will admit it before she becomes motivated to help herself.

Some men do the mistake of trying to control their women by force and the result is a power struggle between them both that results in further problems. If the psychological make up of a woman made her a controlling woman then trying to force her to comply to orders will either make her feel broken or either motivate her to breakup with you.

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