How to change people's opinion of you

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

How to change people's opinion of you

How to change people's opinion of you?
before i can tell you the answer to this question you must first understand when you should care about people's opinion.

People who care so much about the opinion of others are the ones who are usually unsure of themselves and that's why they need external reassurance. (see Why my self esteem is low)

In order to make sure that you are not moving in a direction that can lower your self confidence you must make sure that you only care about people's opinion when you want to reach a certain important goal.

For example if i like someone then i will certainly work on changing that person's opinion of me if i knew that he didn't get me right but if i heard that someone i barely know thinks that i am no good then i will just pity him for living in a fantasy world then keep going.

Now that you know when you should care about people's opinion its time to know how to change people's opinion of you.

Changing people's opinion of you

Do you remember the last time you changed your opinion about something? How did that happen?

Most probably you were convinced that this thing is bad and maybe you spent years with this opinion in mind and then you started to gradually change your opinion about it as new facts kept arriving and as new events kept happening.

Lets suppose that you believed that a friend of yours is dumb. What will happen if he got a good job? at this point you might think that he got this job by coincidence but what will happen if within six month he became a supervisor?

At this point you might also try to search for another excuse to support your existing beliefs such as, "That company does not know how to differentiate between smart and dumb people" (see How beliefs are formed)

but what if after 4 month he was hired but another big company that you trust? What if he got a real good position and a big pay?

At this point you will start changing your opinion about him. Maybe you wont change it completely but at least you will doubt that you were right.

If 2 years later you saw your friend driving a Ferrari then you will certainly change your opinion about him and you might even think that you were dumb for not judging him correctly. (see Why do people judge others on appearance)

The subconscious mind and changing people's opinion of you

In many of my articles i said that the subconscious mind can be convinced by repetition and when it comes to changing people's opinion of you the best way to do this repetition is by taking actions and not by talking. (see Subconscious mind programming)

If someone believed that you are no good then show him that he was wrong by becoming more successful than him.

If someone believed that you are not good for him then show him that you are better than all the people he knows by taking actions.

In my article why do people judge me i explained how can someone judge you incorrectly for many reasons that are not by any means related to you.

A person might judge you incorrectly because of his incorrect way of thinking but you still have the chance of changing his opinion of you if he was important to you.

few years ago before i had any successful business someone told me that a friend said the following behind my back: "Farouk is intelligent but he is wasting his time and effort on projects that bring him nothing"

When i announced 4 years later that i became a self made millionaire at the age of 28 that friend didn't just change his opinion of me but he realized that he was dumb. (see The ultimate guide to becoming rich)

Strike again and again
keep making new achievements, keep sending that person your good news in an indirect way, build a powerful reputation so that others start talking positively about you as well and you will change people's opinion of you.

I have managed to become a self made millionaire at the age of 28. This didn't happen by chance because i already wrote that goal down five years before i accomplished it. Becoming rich is not about luck, starting big or being intelligent but its all about having certain beliefs about money and life.

In The Ultimate guide to becoming rich i will teach you everything that you need to know in order to become rich.

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