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the story of a fly

have you ever tried to watch how does a fly try to get out of a window?

if you stopped and tried to notice how the fly acts for one minute you will see the following , it will attempt to get out of the window thinking that the glass does not exist and so it will hit it, but unfortunately after the first hit the fly may try to get out again of the same place it got hit before!! , yes that will happen maybe for 10 minutes or maybe for an hour, although few inches away, there may be a real opening where it can get out from, but the fly just insists to get out of the same place.

you may be a fly too!!

seems to be really dumb ? , well if you think so, then don't get shocked to know that you may be acting exactly in the same way that this fly did,but you just never happened to notice it.let me give you some examples and then you will see yourself, i will start by small situations then move to bigger ones that may really have an impact on your life

a girl who planned to go out with her friends the next day, so she decided that she will wear the red top and the red shoes, next morning she woke up and while dressing she didn't manage to find her left shoe, so she kept searching for it for half an hour, but she didn't find anything, she then started to get really nervous because time was running out, she became very irritated, 15 minutes later she found that time did already run out so she got very disappointed and decided to stay at home that day.

well just one thing in here, what was the goal she was after when she decided to wear the red top and the red shoes, she wanted to look nice!! so cant that goal get be met in another way ? , of course, it could, by wearing another top that will require a different shoe!! , but that didn't happen because she never focused on the goal , she just focused on the method she will follow to reach the goal, just like the fly, it focused on getting out from the window from a certain place rather than focusing on its goal which is just getting out of here. more examples follows:

• you found a problem with your dsl connection and you kept trying to connect many times until time runs out, instead you should have used dial up at the moment you discovered that dsl is not working rather than wasting your time
• you found someone parking his car beside your car so that you cant drive it,instead of getting angry, or waiting for someone who may never come now take the bus!!
• someone refusing to make a career change although that he cant perform well at his career, forgetting that his goal was working with a good salary with disregard to the job type.
• someone goes to the gym to train his biceps, but the gym was so crowded and the bar he wanted to use was not free, instead of waiting for 15 minutes he could have started by dumbbells then got back to the bar when it becomes free.
• a sales man trying to convince you to buy something by stressing on the same point, lets say the product's price, instead of showing you its other advantages.

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how to be flexible

From the previous examples i guess you have found that most of us acted like flies to a certain extent !!,so bear in mind one thing, when doing something then finding that it doesn't work using a certain way, pause for a while and check the goal you are after or the reason for doing that thing, if you found that something else can serve the same goal then don't just keep doing the same thing, focus on what is working

Flexibility is one of the very important skills that every goal oriented person should have, lack of flexibility may get you stuck somewhere for a long time while others reach their goals.

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