overcoming shyness

Help Me! I'm Shy!

If this shyness is your major problem in life, then you are a lucky person because shyness is one of the easiest personal defects to get over. When you are shy, you just tend to avoid talking or interacting with people as much as possible not to get Embarrassed or not to say something that they may not like, and although you may still enjoy their company, you hardly say a word while being with them, that if you did even talk.

overcoming shyness

Your shyness may be due to many reasons,the follwing list is a list of tips on how to overcome shyness:

practice,if you think that this is not worth to mentoin, just know hat this is the most powerfull method for overcoming shyness. Practice talking to people that you don't know well or even people that you don't know at all!! If you are a shy person, then probably you know well how hard it is to go and approach someone that you don't know to ask for something, it seems very hard because you didn't try hard enough to do it, just start from now to force yourself to talk under any circumstances, even if in between friends, try to talk more than you are used to, It will be hard at the first time, and less harder in the second, and as long as you keep trying its going to be easier and easier, what's amazing is that some people tend to turn totally to the other side after doing so, they turn to become very social persons!! Its all about training!!
Sometimes underlying this shyness is an inferiority complex(feeling inferior compared to your peers) that was created during childhood and stayed there in your mind. In that case removing the shyness requires an additional step of getting rid of that inferiority complex.by the way if you used practice alone without getting rid of the inferiority you will still succedd to be a social person,but behind the scenes still you will be feeling inferior although no one may notice it.
one of the famous causes for shyness is lack of self confidence,you may be afraid to talk because you are not sure what other people are going to think of you,you may not be sure if they are going to like what are you going to say or not, the soloution is simlpe just start from now to build your self confidence and you will overcome shyness in no time. one thing that related to self confidence is putting people first even before your own wants, you may be trying to please everybody and so analyzie what are you going to say hundreds of times in order to make sure that everyone around will like, wake up!! this is not a pefect world!! you can't make everyone like you or like what are saying because whatever the thing you are going to say it may appeal to some people and yet dont appeal to others, try to think in a different way other than this blind perfectionism
one other thing that plays a big role in being shy is negative self talk,self talk are the phrases and words you use when talking to yourself. examples of negative self talk are "i wont talk now,they will laugh at me" or "i know they will get bored if i told them that story". having positive self talk instead of negative is not that hard, you just need use a method called CBT(cognitive behaviour therapy), this method will help you to control your thoughts and your negative self talk and this in turn will lead to controlling your unwanted behaviour (shyness in that case).

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Did that help?

yes,but why can't i please everyone?

yes, I feel inferior, what to do ?

not untill you tell me how to build my self confidence

i want to know more about self talk

I didn't find my question here.

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