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Controlling Someone’s Thoughts

After learning about how thoughts change inside the mind, you can make good use of this information by learning how to drive someone to think about something without asking him directly and so change the direction of the conversation without the other person noticing. (If you didn’t read the first part please take a look at it here.)

In certain situations you may need to make another person think of something without asking him directly, like for example when wanting to remind a friend of yours of a loan he took from you without embarrassing him.

How to Control His Thoughts

Before you can do this, you really need to have a solid idea about that person’s background, beliefs and values so that you could predict what thoughts will come to his mind when you mention a certain keyword.

Now suppose that this person took a loan from you on the fourteenth of February (Valentine's Day). If you start by talking about how good those flowers over there look, his mind will take a certain route in his thoughts network. At that point, he will start to think of flowers, then probably think about Valentine's day at which point he is very likely to remember the loan he took from you. If that didn’t work, you could just try to approach it using a different route like asking him about his girlfriend. Again, this may make him think of Valentine's day and remind him of your money.

Is It That Easy?

Is it that easy? To be honest, no. But can it be done? Definitely! You just need to collect more and more information about the person and you need to learn how to draw an imaginary map in your mind of his own thoughts network. As time passes, you will find that you are becoming more and more able of controlling and directing his thoughts to the ideas you want.