Happiness definition and how to be happy in life

Happiness definition

Happiness is much more than what an article could describe, some people describe happiness as the feeling you experience when you realize that everything is exactly as it should be, others define it as the state of feeling that you experience after reaching your goals while a third party define it as a having inner peace.

Although defining happiness is something that is not that easy still what’s important is that you have already experienced it, and so the aim of this article will be teaching you how to be happy rather than giving you a philosophical definition of happiness that won’t help in changing your mood.

Happiness is perspective dependant

Happiness is a perspective dependant emotion, that means that what can make someone happy may not matter for someone else, I may become happy if I became rich but for someone else money may not be able to make him happy. usually you become happy when you get something that satisfies an unmet need, for example if you were suffering from financial insecurity nothing could make you happy more than earning money while if you were lonely nothing can make you happy more than an intimate relationship.

But what if you were in need for more than one thing? What if you were lonely and in the same time feeling financially insecure? In that case finding an intimate relationship will still make you happy but as the time passes you will get used to it then you will feel unhappy because of the financial insecurity.

How to be happy in life

The following is not a magical formula for happiness nor it’s a guarantee for feeling happy however if you followed those steps they could have a dramatic change on your happiness levels:

You can only experience one emotion at a time: A general rule for emotions is that you cannot experience more than one emotion at a time, for example if you were stressed you cant feel happy and if you were depressed you cant feel motivated. So based on that information one of the main tasks you should do if you want to be happy is eliminating all of your bad or unwanted emotions, just write down the emotion that is currently preventing you from feeling happy then read about it as much as you can, seek someone’s help if you couldn’t get rid of it alone and do your best to eliminate it, by getting rid of these unwanted emotions you may not feel happy immediately but you would have opened the door to happiness by removing the first barrier to it.
Know what makes you happy: As I said happiness is perspective dependant, so if you want to be happy you should first know what makes you happy, just try to visualize the thing that if happened you will become happy, and upon finding that thing fight for it, and I really mean It, fight for it until you get it.
Positive thinking and optimism: You may have asked yourself, could I feel happy while having a major problem that I don’t have a solution to? Yes you could, by knowing that one day this problem will be solved, this is what is called positive thinking, optimism or hope. Learning how to be a positive thinker will open the door to hope and so to happiness.
Happiness and religion: This point is just a sub point of the previous one, simply because nothing could make become an optimist or a positive thinker more than believing in a higher power that is there to help you, and this case this high power is God, if you have the belief that someone will save you then you will be a positive thinker and your big problems will seem to be a temporary issue.
Happiness and life purpose: Having a life purpose may not make you happy on its own but not having a life purpose could make your life a misery, lots of people commit suicide because they don’t know why are they here nor what they should do in this life. If you want to be happy then seriously consider finding a life purpose

Happiness and Love: Having loving friends, a loving partner or loving family could dramatically affect your happiness levels, when surrounded by love your big problems tend to be smaller and your life becomes more happier, social relations in general could act as a healthy escapement when life storms, however don’t just escape without taking actions to solving your problems, dampen your bad feelings by these beautiful relations and in the same time work towards solving your real problems
Increasing your happiness levels: If you already know what makes you happy and if it is something that is within your reach then know that sharing this experience with someone else will make you feel even more happier. Have you tried to compare the feelings you experience when watching a comedy movie alone with the feelings you experience when watching the same movie with close friends? Most probably you will discover that watching it with friends increases the level of happiness, so share your experience in order to become happier.