Happiness and external factors

Happiness comes from within

Have you ever wondered why some rich people are unhappy while some other poor people are happy?
Have you ever wondered why you may feel happy one day then feel bad the other without having a significant change in your life?
Why are some people happy although they don’t have everything? And why are other people unhappy although they have many things?

The answers to these questions are simple; happiness is an internal state of feeling that is independent of the external factors. This does not mean that you can be happy while everything is bad but what it means is that you can be happy without having everything.

I am not happy because I lack something

Most people make the mistake of looking for external factors to fix their bad mood, they just try to change everything around them in order to feel happy but in the end they find that they are still feeling the same.

Do you want a proof for this? Just remember the old times when you felt happy, didn’t you notice that you didn’t have everything at that time yet you were happy? And didn’t you notice that at that time very small things used to make you feel happy?

That same song you listen to now and feel nothing used to make you feel happy at that time, that traditional hangout with your friends used to make you happier at that time, What is that all about? It’s only because you were happy and so you started to enjoy everything around you but when things changed and you found yourself feeling bad you started to blame these same traditional things for your unhappiness.

The real relationship between happiness and external factors

Many people blame their unhappiness on the many external conditions that they think are the reasons for it, out of the hundreds of the external conditions you are blaming there may be only one or two factors that are the real cause for your unhappiness and the others are just innocent factors that you included because your mood is not good. In my book, The ultimate guide to getting over depression I explained how people usually blame all the factors in the world for their bad moods while the truth lies in one or two things that if are dealt with correctly will make them feel great.

Only changing or accepting the real causes of your unhappiness can make you become happy, going for small temporary changes like traveling or buying new clothes will just have a temporary effect.

Finally to test yourself, just watch if you enjoy everything around you even if they were small things, if that’s the case then consider yourself a happy person. if you fInd yourself blaming every small thing around you then it’s time to search for the root cause of your unhappiness and deal with them in order to become happy.

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Did that Help?

Ok, but what if I don’t know why am I unhappy?

No, I don’t deserve to be Happy