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How to make people like you

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

How to make people like you

What will your feelings towards a person be like if you were lost in the desert and extremely thirsty then suddenly he appeared and offered you all the water you need?

Liking that person would be the least thing that would happen and you might even fall in love with him!!

Even if this might appear as a rare example the truth is that hundreds of people everyday experiences the same feelings of being lost in the desert and they long for anyone who can offer them the water they need. In this article I will tell you how to make people like you by learning how to spot their unmet needs then offer them salvation.

relative comparisons and Making people like you

A recent research has found that men tend to find their wives less attractive right after watching a show that displays beautiful models (see Poor body image and the media).

The main concept this research proved is that our minds work on the basis of relative comparison. If you are used to work for 12 hours per day then a 9 hour work day will be easier for you to tolerate than for someone who works for only 6 hours a day.

At many points of our lives we experience rejection, betrayal and resentment from other people. At any of these points our relative comparison systems tend to favor any person who has opposite traits of the ones that caused us pain.

For example, right after being rejected by someone you will tend to like people who accept you more than any other group of people. If right after a rejection someone treated you well and showed you that he respects you then you might not only like him but you will think that he was a much better person than you previously thought.

In my book How to make someone fall in love with you I explained how our views of people are constantly upgraded and downgraded based upon their behavior. If someone showed us that he is very loyal right after someone else betrayed us then we will surely like the first person more than we previously did.

Saving the day and making people like you

Based on all of the previous concepts you should do the following if you want to make people like you:

  • One size doesn’t fit all If you are treating everyone the same way then don’t expect them all to like you because each person has his own set of unmet needs (see Trying to impress people the wrong way)
  • Understand the person’s needs: If you want to make a person like you then you must have a solid understanding of his personality, background and unmet needs (see How to understand people)
  • Wait for the right time: As soon as this person faces a situation that makes him in extreme need of a friend with a certain trait approach him and show him that you are the one

If you did the previous steps correctly then surely the person you are after will like you.

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