dealing with rejection

So you have been rejected by someone, some people or even by the whole world, it feels real bad, You may not be knowing what to do, Maybe you started to scan yourself again searching for anything wrong within yourself in order to justify this rejection, or maybe you just labeled yourself a with labels like "looser" or "failure", or maybe you even became depressed.

the shocking truth!!

The shocking truth is the that main reason that can make you experience these bad feelings upon being rejected is thinking that your worth and your value depends solely on being loved and cared for. when we were children our culture and our parents taught us that we must be nice in order for people like us and that We must be good boys and girls so that mom and dad love us, so we grew up thinking that if people liked us and cared of us then we are good else we are bad or even worthless. We have tied our sense of self worth to others acceptance and so if we got accepted we feel happy else we feel down.

possible reasons for rejection

We know that the human mind can't rest until it have some reason or logic behind the external situations it faces, and that's why i will provide you with lots of reasons that could make somone hate you or reject you other than being worthless,those reasons will support you much on your journey for dealing with rejection. People could hate/reject you because:

They are being jealous of you (of your achievements, of your looks, of anything)
They are currently interested in someone else (if it's a relation rejection and that does not mean that you are bad, see the Psychology of falling in love sectionfor more information on that)
They are afraid of you
(maybe they fear that you take their job, their Gf/bf whatever)
Maybe because you ignored them without noticing
Maybe because you did hurt them and they were emotionally sensitive
Maybe because you have interests that conflict with their own interests.
Maybe because you look like someone they don't like (looks anchor)
Their minds !! haltered is just a method that the person's mind uses to make sure that the he will stay away from the hated person(in this case it's you)
even in job intreviews those reasons could be possible,after all the person intreviewing you is not from mars,he is a human and he experiences the same emotions of hatred and jealusy that humans experince

So as you can see, people may hate or reject you for different reasons that does not relate whether you are good or bad at all. if you want to deal with rejection and get over it,It's time to know that your self-worth is something that is internal, even if the whole world rejected you, you are still whom you are. Don't change yourself to please others,because you will be selling your identity for acceptance. Be yourself and you will have friends and enemies just like everyone else.

But in order to be able to do that you must clearly know whom you are, and you won't be able to deal with rejection unless you have a written document of your strengths and weaknesses. You must know yourself, else people will tell you who you are. You must know what can you do before people create your borders for you. and of course you will then believe them, creating fake beliefs that limit your potential. Go now, document you abilities, document your self judgment and if someone matched your self judgment then he have got good insight else question his judgement abilities.

Did that help?

yes,But why do they hate me? am i that bad?

No, it's not my case, what was rejected is some work i did

No,still people's opinion about me is very important

ok but i still feel bad!!

The problem is that everyone around me is rejecting me

How come it's their minds? Does the mind play any role in hatred?

Looks anchor, huh??

But if I changed maybe they like "the new me"?

Ok, tell me how to write my abilities?

I didn't find my question here.

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