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Feeling Bad Because They Hate You?

Since we don’t live in a perfect world, it's only natural that not everyone is going to love you; you'll find that you'll make enemies just as you make friends and that there will usually be as many people that love you as those that hate you.

If you understand the above fact then you won’t have any problem when you find that someone hates you. The problem however, is that most people think of this world as a perfect one and so expect everyone to love them. They feel bad and hurt because they keep telling themselves that if someone hates them then there must be something wrong with them.

This article was written with this very problem in mind and with the goal of increasing your understanding of the reasons that could make someone hate you. You will discover that being hated by someone or by a group of people doesn’t mean that you are a bad person at all.

Hatred and Insecurity

Do you know that feeling insecure may be the reason that a particular person hates you? In many cases, hatred is the result of perceiving the other person as a threat; think of an employee's hatred of his highly skilled colleague which will usually be the result of feeling that his colleague acts as a threat to his chances of advancement. You can apply this rule to almost all situations where hatred is found; that means that a person hates you because he sees you as a threat to his happiness, to his self confidence, or as a barrier to achieving his ambitions.

Consequently, if someone hates you then this doesn’t mean that you are worthless at all, on the contrary, it means that you have a big impact on this person's life. If that person was confident enough, he would have been sure that you can't affect his sense of wellbeing and so wouldn’t have hated you.

Hatred and Jealousy

Another strong reason for hatred is jealousy. Achieved too much or succeeding in doing what another person failed to do may cause him/her to hate you for it. Whether it was a career-related achievement or a social one, the result will be the same: this person will hate you just because he feels jealous of your success. Again, this is rooted to his lack of self-confidence, since if he was sure that he could achieve those same things, he wouldn’t have felt jealous and so his reaction would've been totally different.

Hatred and Conflicts of Interest

If your interests directly conflict with the interests of the other person, it can be one more cause for him to hate you. But do all people with conflicting interests hate each other? Of course not! Only those who lack confidence in their abilities hate rivals or competitors. If they were sure that their interests cannot be threatened, they would consider any rival with similar goals unimportant and so they wouldn’t have hated him.

Hatred and Ignoring the Person

One reason that can make someone hate you is ignoring that person. By ignoring someone who is in need of social approval, he will hate you for your lack of attention to him/her. Such a person is not only in a weak position, he also lacks the self-confidence that would convince him that he doesn't need others' approval to be socially accepted.

What a Pity

Not everyone subjected to the same situations ends up hating others; it’s usually people who have been hated before and feel insecure and lacking in confidence because of it. These people hate you because of their own weaknesses and if I were you I would feel nothing but pity for their narrow-minded way of thinking.

There are hundreds of other examples that give even more weight to what has been previously said, but hopefully this has been enough to help you discover that being hated doesn’t always mean that you are bad.

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