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when satisfying people cost you your self confidence

once there was a lion living in a big forest along with his other lion friends. one day that lion decided to visit the place where the hedgehogs lived .upon his arrival there he liked the place much. so he went to the leader of the hedgehogs and asked him if he can stay with them. the leader told him, "i am sorry, you are much different than us, please go and cut your tail in order to look more like us".

so the lion went away and thought about it, and then decided to cut his tail,then he came back to the hedgehog's leader and asked him to stay, the leader told him "hmmm your looks are still much different ,please shave all of your hair in order to look more like us".

the lion started to think about that and he thought this may be overdoing but still he would pay any price in order to be accepted by the hedgehogs,so he did shave his hair and then came back to the leader, who told him ""hmm, still you must remove your very long nails in order to look more like us", the lion thought about it, then he did it.

after returning back to the leader the leader told him, "am sorry but, seems that whatever change you do to yourself, you are still something else ,maybe its your nature to be a lion , now please leave us, you don't belong here " , the lion headed back home and was very disappointed and upon arriving back to the place he lived a big surprise was waiting for him, the other lions didn't accept his new look and told him that he is no longer a lion , "you lost your identity , you are no longer a lion" said one of the lions. so the lion went away thinking about what happened, now he knew that, he is not a lion, nor a hedgehog ,then whom he is??.

what was the problem with that lion

the problem of that lion is that he sold his identity in exchange for acceptance of the hedgehogs, he sold his true self for other's approval. the same story happens everyday but with lots of human beings involved this time, he changes the way he dress up in order to appeal to others, he sells what he like for what do they like, and the result is usually either one of a two things, either acceptance but zero self confidence, or either rejection and loss of identity .

people like and respect the confident

contrary to your beliefs, people will like you more when you have your own opinion , ideas, likes and dislikes . this article is not against conformity but its against blind conformity , when you start to shift from things that constitute your identity just to please others , then you are losing yourself, yes you can change to something better, but to something better for you and not for those people surrounding you.

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did that help?

Ok, but sometimes you have to do something because everyone around you is doing it