Why life is unfair?

Why life is unfair?
Because you believe that it’s unfair.

Do you know what depression really is? Depression is a feeling that results from giving up when dealing with an external stressful event by becoming indifferent to it. Lets suppose you had a work related problem that you were unable to solve for months, if you didn’t respond to it or if you felt helpless for a prolonged period of time then sooner or later the stress will turn into depression. Its as if depression is your mind’s way of saying “I give up” or “This problem is too big for me to handle, I lost hope”

But what does this has to do with fairness or unfairness of life?

Is life really unfair?

It’s quite humiliating for your subconscious mind to accept the fact that you weren’t competent enough to deal with your problems, that’s why it doesn’t declare defeat directly but instead it searches for any possible excuse to throw the blame on (See When he deceives you).

But what kind of excuse can make someone feel good even when having a big personal conflict like this? As you might have already guessed, a new belief about life, people or the world that makes the person a victim instead of making him incompetent.

“Life is unfair”, “No one can get everything he wanted” and “You can’t succeed before you suffer” are common examples of false beliefs that your mind might use as a decoy not to present you with the real fact. So back to depression, when people give up in dealing with stress they become depressed and when people fail to deal with life problems they develop false beliefs about it such as “Life is unfair”

Both are defense mechanisms but the false beliefs one is a very intelligent method as it protects the person’s ego by throwing the blame on something else.

But life is really unfair

If you tried once and failed then surely you will find that life is unfair. Life was not designed for those who try once then give up but instead it’s more suited for persistent people who keep trying until they get what they want.

Ask any successful person, is life fair? He will tell you in the beginning it wasn’t but he kept trying until it became fair. Life will never be fair with those who don’t fight until it becomes fair.

When I first started this website, I knew it deserved to be popular but I got a big number of rejections that were about to force me to stop working on it. I didn’t give up I kept trying and in just two years its started getting more than 400,000/hits each month and i am making a very respectful monthly income out of it . Had I said life Is unfair I would have stopped working on it and you wouldn’t have seen this page. When it comes to my website, I see life as very fair and it will become fairer everyday, simply because I am the one who is responsible for creating this fairness.

Unless you keep trying until you create fairness life will always be unfair to you.

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