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Body Language: In state of flirting

Researches have found that there is a direct relation between the states of feeling that we experience and our gestures. So if you are happy, your gestures will take a form that is different than the form it will take if you were feeling sad. So if you managed to know the gesture associated with a certain emotional state, you will be able to detect the presence of this emotional state. The same goes for flirting because it’s just an emotional state, if you know the body posture and the body language changes associated with the state of flirting you will easily know if someone is trying to flirt with you.

Flirting Signs and Gestures

Whether you've found them strange or not, whether you've believed in them or not, they're still signs of flirting. These signs are neither subject to suspect nor do they represent my opinion about flirting; they are proven facts. I am not asking you to believe in them without testing them; all I'm asking is that you test them and see for yourself.

• Pupil size: When someone sees something or someone that he likes, his pupil size gets bigger!! I know that this is a bit hard to notice, but with training you will be able to detect these slight changes in the pupil size and so know if someone likes seeing you.
• Playing with her hair : This sign is only associated with girls. When a girl wants to flirt with someone or when she finds him particularly interesting, she may start to play with her hair, twist it and flicker it. This could happen once or several times during the conversation; the more she does, the better!!
• Pointing towards you with his toes or feet: If he isn't sitting right next to you, then he'll have his feet or toes point directly towards you; it's even better when he sits with his body totally facing you.
• Seeing his/her teeth through the smile: A smile should be wide enough to reveal at least the front teeth, otherwise it may be a fake smile, or a polite smile that has nothing to do with you.
• Keeping you in his/her line of sight: The person who is flirting with you will try to keep you in his line of sight. As a result, you may find him taking a look at you every now and then or you may find him continuously orienting himself to be facing you even if he is standing with someone else.
• Clothing: A girl will generally dress to kill upon the possibility of you being there. You could ask her about her favorite colors, and observe whether she wears them a lot when you're around or not.

Body language and attractiveness

As you've just seen, very slight changes to your body language can have a big effect on your relationships with people. In my book, How to make someone fall in love with you, I described how slight changes, such as keeping your back straight, can increase the chances of having people fall in love with you. The more confident you appear, the more attractive you will become, and nothing can make you appear more confident than a straight back.

Many More Signs

The urge to flirt means that you find that person particularly interesting and that’s why I strongly recommend reading the section "In state of interested". In addition to the above signs, you can use these signs of interest to make sure that person really is flirting with you.

2knowmyself is, without doubt, the only complete guide to body language on the entire internet. If you dare challenge this statement, then check the 2knowmyself’s
body language section and you will know what I am talking about.

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