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Cognitive behaviour therapy(CBT), Inferiority Complex

Suppose that you were walking down the street and upon passing by two other people they started to whisper to each other while looking at you. in that case if you were having some irrational ideas about yourself you might have thought that they were saying, "look at that stupid guy, he looks like a real nerd".

Thinking that way might have let you feel bad and so as a measure of defence towards future occurrence of such situations, you may have started to avoid approaching people, this in turn will lead having less social activities and to having fewer friends. All of that will in turn lead to enforcing the same bad ideas you had about yourself; it's like a self enforcing cycle.

do you have a clue to support your irrational ideas?

But, just a minute!! Did you have a clue that they were talking about you? And aren't there any other reasons that could be making them talk while looking at you? Couldn't they be talking about what happened to them yesterday? Couldn't they be saying, hey look that guy is wearing the t-shirt I wanted to buy yesterday? Couldn't they be saying "hey look that guy looks pretty much like our friend john?"

challenge your irrational ideas

Why did you leave all the possibilities and just chose the negative one!!! It's amazing how out of thousands of possibilities you did pick up the worst one. Just challenge your thoughts, say "no, there are lots of possibilities, why exactly did I choose this one?" Do I have a clue? Do those people know me to judge me? Am I thinking in a rational way or it's just that I am only reinforcing an idea that does exist in my mind due to my previous experience.

Whenever the same situation happens follow the same approach of challenging your thoughts. Don't accept a thought without a clue. Relate your thought to reality instead of your past. On doing so over and over you will have this way of thinking automatically implemented into your mind, and on the same situation happening again you may not experience those feelings because simply you won't have the thoughts from the beginning.

final words

As you saw in the first examples the thoughts (I am looking like a nerd) resulted in the emotions (feeling bad) which lead to the behaviour (avoiding people). By either changing the way you think or by changing your behaviour you are breaking the self reinforcing cycle and so getting rid of irrational ideas about yourself that are causing you to feel inferior.

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Did that help?

Yes, but I want more information on feelings inferiority

Yes, but I want more information on cognitive behaviour therapy

yes, but what if I think that they were talking about me because of my weird/bad looks, why couldn't this be the clue?

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