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NLP , establishing rapport

how does it feel when rapport is established

have you ever been to a foreign country that speaks a language that is much different from yours and suddenly you got hit by someone speaking the same language as yours? what do feel then? do you feel that you are familiar and comfortable to stay with that person?
did you find yourself talking to him for extended period of time? , yes that may have happened to many of us. rapport have just been established between both of you.

definiton of rapport in the NLP world

rapport building is one of the NLP (neuro linguistic programming) techniques that can make other people have the same feelings towards you as the feelings you had towards that person you have met abroad.

establishing rapport is making the other person feel that there is something common between you and him or to make him feel that he knows you since a long period.

how to estalbish rapport in short meetings

But how can you establish rapport in a small meeting that takes less than 15 minutes?

this is very easy given that we will establish rapport on the unconscious level rather than the conscious level, you just need to convince the subconscious mind of that person that there is something common between you, and guess what, this something could be the body language and voice tone you use .yes when you mimic the body language of the other person he will unconsciously start to feel the same feelings of associated rapport establishment.

off course you are not going to randomly mimic him,because he may consciously notice it , just follow the following steps :

  • try to notice his posture then make a move to be as close to it as possible just as in the first picture below
  • few seconds later complete the move and take the same position as him as in picture two and three (do this in two separate steps)
  • there is a great possibility that the person person will take a new move, just wait a few seconds and repeat the previous steps
  • in addition to mimicking gestures you need to mimic his voice tone ,tempo and even the stops he makes while talking
  • after a few gestures try to take a different position yourself and see if he unconsciously mimics you, if he did then the rapport establishment process was successful



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