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Fear of intimacy

Fear of intimacy is the fear of forming a close relationship with someone, with your friends or even with your wife. Don’t you sometimes find yourself afraid to share your emotions with some of your close friends? This is a simple example of fear of intimacy. People who fear intimacy either avoid close relationships completely or even form relationships with unavailable partners just to prevent the relationship from becoming a close one. The problem with fear of intimacy is that it leads to loneliness. Loneliness is the absence of intimacy and fear of intimacy makes sure that you won’t get close to anyone.

Overcoming fear of intimacy

In order to overcome the fear of intimacy you must first understand it. Fear of intimacy will usually be a result of some early childhood wound like being rejected or betrayed. If as a child you were emotionally betrayed or if you one of your parents betrayed the other you may grow up having fear of intimacy just to protect yourself from being betrayed or rejected. This is how all fears work, they are just a method of protection against a perceived danger, but the problem happens when something that is not dangerous appears to be.

It will require you some courage to overcome the fear of intimacy because you will have to learn how to reveal yourself more to others. You must share some of these hidden secrets with your friends and you must be honest expressing what you feel.

Some people lose their sense of their self completely because they are never emotionally honest when it comes to dealing with others. They say what their friends would like to listen, they don’t express feelings that might make others reject them and they hide most of their real selves just to avoid intimacy. The result is a deep feeling of being lost and a great damage to their self confidence.

Who Are You?

As children, the critical comments we received from our parents and from our school teachers may have resulted in making us become ashamed of our true identities or in other words, it resulted in making us think that we are worthless. That’s another reason why do people fear intimacy, deep in their subconscious minds, they think that they are worthless and that’s why they choose to avoid people not to let them discover this truth.

Final Words on Overcoming Fear of Intimacy

Be honest, be yourself & have some courage. This is the key to overcoming fear of intimacy. The more you be yourself the more will you value yourself and the more will others value you and the more you hide your true self by fearing intimacy the more will your self worth deteriorate and the more lonely you will become.

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