Feeling jealous

You might have asked yourself why in most cases a man might feel jealous of one of his friends and not of a celebrity who is more popular.

Yes there are lots of cases where people envy celebrities but why don’t they feel as jealous towards them as the way they feel towards those who work with them?

Moreover, have you noticed that an engineer can rarely become jealous of a successful doctor while he can become really jealous of another successful engineer who works with him, what is that all about??

jealousy and competition

The answer to these questions are simple, we only feel jealous when we think that we are in a competition with the other person.

The guy who feels jealous when one of his co-worked is praised by the manager is actually afraid of losing the promotion to that competitor.

The man who feels jealous when his wife talks to other men is afraid that one of the other men wins the competition and takes his wife from home. The feelings of jealousy can make the other partner uncomfortable and can result in ending the relationship.

In my book The ultimate guide to maintaining a healthy relationship i explained how fixing your own insecurities and fears can help you become less jealous and can make your relationship become more healthy.

If you are jealous of a movie star then most probably you are afraid that he captures the attention and win the hearts of your friends and of the person you like, so if you perceived the relationship between you and the movie star as a competition for getting attention then you will surely feel jealous of him.

Jealousy and weakness

Is jealousy a sign of weakness? Yes in most cases it is.
You will never feel jealous of someone unless you think that he is a tough competitor and unless you are questioning your own ability of beating him.

The more jealousy you feel towards the person the more weak you see yourself compared to him. If someone kept talking behind your back and kept saying bad things about you then don’t feel bad because in many cases this can be regarded as a verbal confession that you are stronger than him. (see Why Are Some People Overly Critical and Sarcastic).

If you found yourself feeling jealous of other people then consider it the time for starting to change things about yourself instead of criticizing or hating them.

We all might feel jealous at certain points of our lives but those who really understand jealousy will try to fix themselves while others will only becomes envious and full of hatred.

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