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relationships and the fear of loneliness

Do you do your best to avoid being alone?
Do you fear loneliness and try to avoid it at all costs?
Do you hate rejection not to end up alone?

If your answers were yes, then probably you have got fear of loneliness

what causes fear of loneliness?

Fear of loneliness may be caused by one of the following reasons:

• bad memory of a loneliness experience: if you had a time where you were a loner at any point in your life, and if you didn’t like that experience then most probably this experience will be printed in your mind and you may end up doing your best to avoid being alone not to experience the same feelings again
• using social relations as an escapement: some people try not to be alone and to stick to social groups in order to forget about their problems, I am not talking about people who try to solve their problems then escape every now and then in order to get a relief, I am talking about people who escape solving their problems without trying to solve them.
• socializing for unmet needs:if you were lacking self confidence and if you were rejected many times before you may end up socializing most of your time only to get social approval in order to compensate for your unmet social needs. Surly in that case being alone would be the worst thing you want to experience

how to get over fear of loneliness?

The following are the steps you should do in order to get over your fear of loneliness:

know more about loneliness: what is meant by knowing more about loneliness is knowing about the exact reasons for making you feel bad while being alone. By knowing what you may face one day your fear will become much less.
• build the power of solitude: the power of solitude is feeling good and adequate on being alone, some people enjoy being alone to an extent that they may go to watch a movie alone and then come back feeling happy, you too can be like those people, just read the guide about the power of solitude and how to build it
• change your way of thinking: usually fear is associated with negative thinking, if you are always expecting bad things before they happen and if you are always afraid of things that rarely happen then its time to be a positive thinker. If you feel bad while being alone and feel afraid while to lose the people around you while not being alone then you are ruining your life!! How come can you enjoy your life while your only two moods of thinking are feeling bad and feeling afraid!!
• know more about psychology of fear: in this case you are dealing with two different emotions loneliness and fear, knowing more about the two emotions will increase your chance of getting over them, after all you cant be fighting an invisible enemy, know your enemy in order to be able to take it down.

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Did that help?

Yes but what did you mean by saying “escaping to social relations”?

Tell me how to acquire the power of solitude?

Yes but how to change my way of thinking?

Tell me more about loneliness

Tell me more about fear