Losing interest in a relationship

He fell in love with her at the first sight
He kept trying and trying until one day he knew that she felt the same for him
He couldn’t believe himself and felt so happy
Then few days later he lost his enthusiasm
He started to wonder if she was really the one he always dreamt to be with
And after thinking for one complete week, he told her

“Sorry, I guess we should just be friends”

What’s happening?

I am sure you have seen someone before who lost interest in a relationship few days after making sure that the other person loved him. This may seem very confusing especially when the person keeps doing his best in order to make the other one fall in love with him right before losing interest. There is no single cause behind this phenomenon but the following lines will give you the explanation for some of the possible reasons for making someone lose interest as soon as he knows that the other person loves him:

I only want the approval: Some people fall in love thinking that the other person is the one while in reality its just the unconscious desire to compensate for a past failure in a relationship that made them love that person. Suppose that a guy were always dumped by blondes in the high school, in this case, he will most likely try to make a blonde fall in love with him in order to proof to himself that he is worthy. The problem is, when the other person declares love, the blonde in this case, he will no longer feel that he is in need of her because he only wanted the approval not the person.
Devaluation: There is nothing as powerful as programming of the subconscious mind when it comes from close friends. If his friends started to convince him that he is better than her, most probably this will go directly into his subconscious mind and the result will be devaluating her, then of course, feeling that he lost interest in her.
The Game: Some people fall in love thinking that its true love while for their subconscious minds its just a game to proof to them that they can hunt whomever they want. These people will usually lose interest in a relation as soon as they win the game then move on seeking a harder level or a bigger challenge.

Final words about losing interest in a relationship

What’s really disappointing is that in all of the above examples people think that they are really in love and they are not even aware that its game or a method of compensation. By getting more self understanding you will be protecting yourself from getting involved into such unhealthy relationships that are not related by any means to true love.

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