Controlling Anger (Anger Management Techniques)

Anger Management

Every now and then people tend to get angry. In the state of anger, people feel the blood rushing into their vains and find themselves acting irrationally then they regret it later. It's obvious that anger is not lightly taken. By understanding how anger works you will be able to control it instead of making it control you.

Controlling Anger (Anger Management Techniques)

Anger is a healthy mechanism launched by your subconscious mind with the aim of helping you in regaining control or in defending your rights. To deal with anger you must first understand the nature of the emotion you are dealing with. After all, you can’t fight an invisible enemy. The following examples will help you understand exactly what anger is and what triggers it. Understanding its triggers is the first step in anger management.

What makes you Angry?

You can get angry when:

Someone takes your turn while you're waiting in a queue.
You have alot of work to do on your computer. When it starts to slow down, you will become stressed then angry.
When you're in a team and you find a team member neglecting his work and leaving the burden to the rest of the group.
When you feel afraid! Yes, anger could be a consequence of fear. An easy example, when someone nearly crashes into your car, you get mad and shout at him. Why did you get mad? Because you were afraid that your car would get smashed. So in this case your anger was a result of being afraid.
When someone makes fun of you.
When you get scolded by your superior at work.
When your boss gives you load of work to do.

In all of the previous examples we can see that anger was triggered to preserve your rights (like when someone took your turn), when things didn’t go as you expected (like the computer being slow) or as a result of fear (in case of someone was about to smash your car).

Some problems with anger

Unhealthy anger is totally useless and destructive. For example, cursing your computer won’t make it run faster just like kicking your car won’t make it work. In such cases you are just wasting your efforts instead of channeling them properly. Learning anger management techniques will help you to utilize your anger appropriately instead of directing it elsewhere. When you turn your anger inwards you may become depressed. one of the known definitions for depression is, anger turned inwards.

Another major problem with anger is that sometimes it's directed inwards, which means that you never take any action and just suppress these emotions. Of course these emotions will leak out eventually, maybe through bad dreams, unexplained bad mood or sudden bursts of unexplained anger. To make the idea even clearer, imagine that you're angry with your boss. Even though you're fuming, you probably won't do anything to show it ,Instead, you will just go home and find yourself shouting at your kids for the slightest thing. You've directed your anger towards something else.

Breakups and anger

In my book How to get over anyone in few days i explained how are there five stages for recovery from breakups that people will follow before they can forget about someone they loved. The second one of these stages is anger where the person feels that he wants to take revenge from this person who dumped him, thus learning how to control your anger can help you get over stage two quickly and so increase your speed of recovery from breakups.

Anger is just a Signal

Anger is like any other emotion. It’s a signal sent from your mind to force you to take an action. It’s a healthy emotion that can be channeled and properly utilized by using anger management techniques. Channeling it correctly will turn it from a destructive force to a useful and constructive one.

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Did that help?

No, you didn’t tell me how to deal with anger yet.

No, I guess fear is what’s causing my anger.

No, I guess stress is what's causing my anger.

Yes, tell me about emotional leaks.

Yes, but what do you mean by the phrase “it’s a signal sent by your mind”??