dealing with disappointment

what is disappointment

Disappointment comes from unmet expectations or when things does not go the way we wished them to, a simple example of disappointment could be when someone graduates hoping to find a job that pays 2000/month and then he only get a 1000$/month paying job.

Disappointment have nothing to do with whether your situation is good or not, for example If wished to earn 10,000/month and you managed to earn 5,000$/month you may get disappointed although that those 5000/$ may be a dream for someone else.

should I change my future expectations to avoid disappointment?

Off course not, many people around start to change their way of thinking from being optimists to being pessimists just to avoid disappointment!! and this is a great mistake because its not a solution, its just a way of escapement, dealing with disappointment is a mixture of both learning to have a positive way of thinking and in the same time having backup plans.

disappointment and depression

Disappointment is usually the final step before depression, some people get out of disappointment while other crush land to depression, know that dealing with disappointment is an important step for preventing depression and for preventing yourself from building fake ideas about the life like "there is not hope" or "whatever i try,it never works for me"

dealing with disappointment

The following are major causes for disappointment and the correct actions to take in order to deal with disappointment.

being a perfectionist : perfectionists live in their own imaginary world, they think that life is perfect and that this should be perfect in turn, the problem with the perfectionist is not that he gets disappointed when he gets a B instead of A, but the real problem is that he gets angry when he gets 99 instead of 100, if you are a perfectionist its time to live in the real world and forget about your illsionary perfect world.
overconfidence: yes you may get disappointed because you are overconfident, after all you may not be week, you just expected much out of yourself and thats why you got disappointed when you found nothing. If that’s the case know that the winner in this life is the balanced person, peole who act on extremes are the ones who usually have problems, shy people may stay in their comfort zone achieving nothing while the overconfident may get disappointed
setting unrealistic goals : again am not saying that you have to change your expectations or become a pessimist but what is meant by setting realistic goals is setting something that can be really reached, after all putting a goal to be a millionaire in three months will only make you become disappointed

having a backup plan: having a backup plan in case things go wrong will not only make you feel secure but also they will prevent you from getting disappointed in case something bad happened
having false ideas about rejection or failure: sometimes that main cause for being disappointed when is having a false idea about about rejection or failure, failure is just a feedback telling you that you should change your way, be more flexible or try harder. Almost any one who succeeded failed tens if not hundreds of times before he arrived there. Know that if you are serious about success, failure should be a friend, the road to success may be full of failures but at its end you will see your dreams coming true

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did that help?

no, the problem is that i suffer from relationship disappointment

well, as they say, "no expectations,no disappointment"

i am already depressed, tell me what to do?

I didn't find my question here.

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