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When your past haunts you

Sometimes small life events happen that make us feel really bad, while some of us are lucky enough to forget such past events quickly others keep remembering them over and over, and with each time they recall such events, they feel even worse as they enter into an endless cycle of pain and regret .

What really makes those people feel bad is that they think that the past can’t be changed but this is not correct. You can change the past bad memories and even turn them into good ones that make you feel happy whenever you recall them.

Suppose that you started a small business that shortly went bankrupt and then this turned into a bad memory. What do you think will happen if you started another business that succeeded and then boomed? And what do you think will be your feelings like whenever you remember this old business? Most probably you are going to experience positive emotions and not negative ones, and this is how the past can be changed, by changing the future.

Past unfinished business

The subconscious mind always tries to do what’s best for you using its defense mechanisms. But what happens if you failed to do something in the past and you didn’t have the chance to try again? What will your subconscious mind do in order to give you another chance?

Most probably it will try looking for conditions that were similar to the old one in order to make you feel that it’s the same situation. It’s the same thing that makes a person feel guilty whenever he sees someone who looks like someone whom he did hurt before.

This person’s mind will use guilt against him in order to make him treat this replica well just to make him fix the mistake he did in the past. This is also the same thing that makes a person eager to prove that he is worthy to all of those people he newly knew, it’s his past unfinished business that makes him wanting to do what he didn’t manage to do in the past.

In my book how to get over anyone in few days I mentioned how the past unfinished business can prevent you from getting over someone who looks like someone you did hurt before. It’s all because of your past, you keep doing the same thing over and over just to attempt to change what happened before.

This is the same reason a girl may fall in love over and over with those who resemble her absent father, her subconscious desire to proof to her that she can make her man available for her even if he was busy always makes her fall for the wrong people.

How to forget the past?

You can’t forget about your past, but you can change your present in such a way that makes you feel good whenever you remember those memories that used to make you feel bad. It may not take few days and it may not be that easy but if you can summon your courage then you will be able to do it.

Personally I did change my past many times by changing my present. Years ago I had deep problems because of my lack of self understanding. I just couldn’t tolerate feeling bad without knowing why nor was I able to tolerate a mood swing that came out of now where. I kept reading and reading about psychology until I had enough knowledge to make this website that gets almost ¼ million visits a month from those seeking self understanding. Now whenever I remember my lack of self understanding problem I smile, because its no longer a bad memory, but its now one of the things that proofs to me that I can do whatever I want to do.

I am no special person and I don’t have superior abilities, but I just had the desire to change my past and that’s why I did it. You too can do the same, just decide then look life straight into the eye.

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