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Dealing with Love Addiction, Step One

Love addiction can not only cause us to breakdown when we break-up with a partner, it can also threaten the future and continuity of our current relations. The first step in dealing with love addiction is knowing why we are addicted to love!! Why? Because to be able to get rid of an addiction, you should first get rid of the underlying reasons and causes.

There are lots of reasons that could be behind your addiction to love, examples could be:

• A lack of self-confidence which leads to a need for someone to approve of us or to care for us so that we can feel worthy.
• Having unsolved problems that cause us bad moods and mood swings. This creates a need for someone sweet and caring to get you out of the bad mood.
• Being lonely or lacking relationship intimacy with friends also leaves you in need of anyone to share your emotions or experiences with.
• Being socially rejected and so needing someone to love us to compensate for this rejection.

There are lots of other reasons too, but I can't list them all because everyone of us might have his own special conditions. Your first task is identifying your own reason so that you can know your enemy.

Dealing with Love Addiction, Step Two

Suppose you discovered that your love addiction was caused by being unable to tolerate bad moods resulting form your unsolved problems. In that case, you should start to face your problems instead of rushing into relationships. You should break the habit of letting those problems accumulate without taking an action or even trying to solve them.

Whatever the reason discovered, the next action should be facing that reason and dealing with it. So if it was a lack of self-confidence, fight to build your self-confidence; if it was loneliness then read about the causes of loneliness and methods of coping with it; if it was social rejection then find reasons for this rejection then deal with them.

If you are serious about dealing with love addiction then you should decide to be courageous. You should decide that you won't run back into a relationship when your life becomes unstable and you should decide that you will start a war against all of these things that are making you dependant on someone else in order to survive. Doing this will rid you, hopefully forever, of relationship addiction.

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The problem is that I don't know why I feel bad.

Great, but I lack the enthusiasm required to start.

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