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Self Confidence and the Cyclical nature of Life

One of the rules this world we live in follows is that it moves in cycles. Today you may be at the top and a few months later you hit the bottom. Sometimes find yourself happy and in control of everything and then suddenly some new parameters appear that force you to feel down or depressed. Maybe you start going to the gym or undergoing a diet then have a perfect form then suddenly you become ill and lose your form and return back to where you started from.

Ok but that is unavoidable, hot to deal with it?

cycles of life themselves are not a problem,they are part of nature but the problem is when someone ties his self confidence to his current situation so that whenever something bad happens to him or whenever he visits the bottom of the normal going cycle he starts to
label himself, thinking that the problem is internal and that he is defective, which helps more in diminishing his self confidence. The person who thinks using that way may also have the way of thinking that he is his current situation , achievements or profession.

For example, if he is working as a prime minister and his name was John, he then calls himself the prime Minster John and not John the prime Minster, although this seems a Negligible change still its a major problem,simple because as soon as he retires or loses his job, he loses his identity because his identity was the prime Minster and not John. The same happens with people who have their confidence dependant on anything they own like assets, cars, big villas...etc, as soon as they lose any of the objects their self confidence was dependant on they lose their self confidence with it.

So to make it simple don’t make your self confidence dependant on external factors because life is always changing and surely you will have days where you are up and days where you are down. Instead just enjoy your up times and work hard when you are at your down times in order to go back up again.

self confidence and Feeling beaten up

Sometimes the major cause of your lack of self confidence is that you have lost some kind of a challenge and so ended feeling beaten up,Maybe this challenge was trying to make someone love you, Maybe this challenge was to build a good career, Maybe this challenge was to control your life or future,whatever this challenge was the result is that you lost a battle that was very important to you. your self confidence may get deeply scratched. So, instead of escaping your problems by using drugs or even over eating, try to figure out, why do you feel so. Don’t leave yourself like that. Try at least to know your problem and do your best to solve it. Keep trying and trying until you do it.

what to do when you are at the top of your cycle

When you are at the top of your cycle, try to record your achievements, Write them down on a paper, Write the complements that you receive daily ,write the feelings that you Experiencing, even record the music that you hear at that time. Keep the records and documents aside and don't waste them as they will act as somthing to remind you of your achievements,yes remind you, don't wonder, when the down time becomes so long you may even forget that you were up before. those documents will act as an anchor to recall the previous states of feeling that you had. in case that you started to question your abilities, A physical proof then is the strongest thing you could offer to yourself. By just reviewing those documents you can know whom you are so that you could get up again faster.

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Want to know anything else?

Tell me more about having my confidence dependant on external factors ?

yes but it feels bad when you fall from the top to the bottom

Yes, what is an anchor?

Yeah, what if I cant solve the problem?