Your mind must find a cause

One of the habits most people follow is trying to find a cause for anything that happens then associating that cause with the event. For example at the moment someone tells you that you are looking bad today, you may start to dig for the reason that made him say so, you may examine your hair, your clothes and everything until you find a reason to justify the comment.

The major problem in here is that sometimes you lack the required knowledge about the cause, and since you must associate the event with something the result will be having incorrect causes associated with events. For example consider the previous case where you have received a bad comment about your looks, what if the comment came from someone you don't know well or someone whom you can't get more information from? in that case you don’t have enough knowledge of the cause and so you may end up with wrong explanation like "i must be ugly" or "i shouldn't have bought that shirt", you just associated the event with a cause that may be far from reality. More examples to follow:

someone who notices two people whispering to each other on passing by him and so associates this with a problem in his appearance or his personality
Someone who got rejected associates this with a problem in his personality or in the work that he submitted
Someone who incorrectly interpret body language of other people and jumps to conclusions that people don't like him because they are not using open body language gestures when dealing with him
God is nature. This one Doesn’t need an explanation.
Someone who fails to reach anything in life and finds that his friend was successful so he associates what happened to his friend with the famous word "LUCK".
someone who associates a stock market crash with the manipulation of wealthy investors who can shake the market (a very famous myth in emerging markets like Egypt and saudia arabia, whenever a correction happens all people agree that billionaires who own shares were responsible for it)

So whats the problem with that?

The problem with this is that you may end up with a corrupted idea about yourself, about your skills and about the whole world, you will tend to associate every thing that happens with an incorrect cause and so end up living in your own illusionary world!!

You must know that associating everything with a cause is not correct; you must know that there are many things that are beyond your knowledge, i know that your mind wont rest until it finds a cause and so what you can do is learning how to be patient and not to judge things unless the full picture becomes clear and unless you have a strong evidence to proof the information that you have collected, else you will end up building false beliefs about everything in life.

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