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Attention seeking adult

Whenever you find someone acting on the extreme side know that he is compensating for something on the other side. Some adults strive for attention and pay any price just to get it. Those attention seeking adults may do inappropriate things like lying just to get the attention or they may engage in a more constructive behavior like striving for success and recognition.

Not all attention seekers are doing so because of a personal disorder but if the person started to sacrifice some of his values for the sake of attention then its probably the result of an under laying disorder.

Why do some people strive for attention?

If as a child, the person did not receive much attention from his parents or his peers he may grow up feeling neglected, those feelings will then be the main drive behind his attention seeking behavior. Abusive parents and parents who are always absent usually make their children feel that they are overlooked and so the child may grow up as an attention seeking adult.

Sometimes adult seek attention because of jealousy. When someone finds himself threatened by another person who is drawing all the attention of others he may counter back with attention seeking behavior. Lack of self worth can be another cause for attention seeking behavior, some people think that they are overlooked and so the only solution to restore their balance is to bring back the lost attention. The attention in this case will provide them with reassurance and will act as proof to them that they are worthy.

Arrogant & overconfident people may seek attention because they have the feeling that they deserve to be in the center of attention. Because they aren’t mature enough they still think with their inner child’s mentality which makes them believe that they are the center of the world. Usually the child thinks that he is the center of the universe around which all other objects revolve. If the child’s way of thinking didn’t mature he will grow up thinking that he is the center of the world and so he will be an attention seeking adult.

Narcissists are also attention seekers, they consider this attention a good source of narcissistic supply and so they strive to get it. If you ignored a narcissist he will definitely hate you especially if he was hoping for some attention from you.

In my book How to get over anyone in few days i pointed out how can the desire to be taken care of and the desire to be the in center of someone's attention can make you have hard time trying to get over someone. In this case, getting over the person only requires you to deal with your attention seeking behavior by understanding it more.

Lots of people advice ignoring attention seekers, however, the correct way to deal with them is to understand the drives behind their behavior and then work towards helping them instead of ignoring them.

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