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Inferiority and Compensation

Try carrying something heaving with your right hand and You'll notice that your body, involuntary, bends to the right side; weird, right?! This is the concept of compensation and how it functions; it usually works in the opposite direction of that of the cause of inferiority.

Compensation; behavior wise

Humans compensate for their inferiorities in the same manner; upon lacking something, they try to achieve the extreme of the other side. These examples will show you how this happens:

• The Superman: Some people tend to act in a superior way; showing everyone that they are the strongest and greatest at what they do. This does not only include physical strength; its scope widens to include everyone who acts or behaves superiorly. Guess what? They people are only trying to compensate for their inner weaknesses; the situations they faced in the past that made them feel helpless or their inner sense of inferiority.,( See superiority complex).
• The Popular Guy: I bet you know at least one person who seems to have good relations with your whole city; he knows hundreds of people and everybody seems to be talking about that. Such a person may be compensating for many things such as a state of childhood loneliness, previous social failures or feelings of not being loved. Those feelings develop the need for him to feel loved and he accomplished that by getting to know new people.
• The Billionaire: Try digging up the history of famous billionaires and you'll find that most of them weren’t raised in rich families. Moreover, you're liable to discover that most of them suffered from severe financial problems in their past, which was the invisible driving force behind the wealth they've managed to collect.
• The center-of-attention guy : Striving for being the center of attention usually means that the person was much ignored during some period of his life and is just trying to succeed in what he's failed to do before.
• The Robot: The reason I call this person a robot is because he claims to never make mistakes and never going about things the wrong way. What is that person trying to compensate for? As you might probably guess: an extreme lack of self-confidence.(See Five signs of a lack of self-confidence).
• Miss Best-Appearance: Some girls and guys tend to always dress in the latest, most trendy outfits; you will never see them out of form or less than perfectly dressed. People like that are usually compensating for poor self image!!

Ignoring our old wounds and trying to act as if they are not there can only result in one thing, severe depression. If you suffered from financial insecurity during your childhood then you didn't do your best as a grown up to become rich you will end up depressed. In my book, The ultimate guide to getting over depression i explained how depression usually stems from ignoring our problems and wounds instead of facing them. Doing your best to heal your emotional wounds should not be something that you take for granted else you will be risking your mental well being.

Success and Compensation

Behind any extreme behavior there is always inferiority, or lets say a strong need to achieve. Take it as a general rule, if you see some kind of extreme behavior, know that inferiority is the underlying drive.

Considering that, inferiority might not be so bad after all; no one succeeds without a sense of inferiority. If you didn’t go through that financial problem a few years ago, you may not have built up the fortune you have now, and if you weren’t rejected as a child you may not have been able to make that enormous number of friends.

Some people mistakenly believe that feelings of inferiority make them inadequate, which couldn't be further from the truth as we're all born with some sense of inferiority. Being young children in a world full of adults, and being unable to control the biological processes in our bodies over the years result in us feeling like inferior little creatures.

To wrap this up, use the inferiorities you experience as a drive to succeed and not as an excuse to be broken or to feel down. This is how you can turn limitations into possibilities and disabilities into advantages.

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