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emotional intelligence definition

If you have visited 100 different websites talking about emotional intelligence definition most probably you would have noticed that each website has got its own definition for emotional intelligence and that most of them are vague, I don’t say that I will give you the correct definition but I will just define emotional intelligence from a personal development point of view.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to properly monitor and manage your emotions in an intelligent way in order not to let them take over you or affect your decision making process. Emotional intelligence is also the ability to know or to understand the emotions of others in order to know the reasons behind their behaviour and so be able to better communicate with them.

emotional intelligence process

Emotional intelligence involves the followings:

• understanding your emotions: after all how are you going to mange your emotions if you don’t even understand them? Understating why are you feeling so is the first step be emotionally intelligent.
• thinking rationally about the emotion before taking an action: emotions can make you take unreasonable actions, for example being angry could lead you to start a fight or to destroy something, by thinking rationally before acting you will become more emotionally intelligent
• putting yourself in other’s shoes:emotional intelligence involves trying to think from the perspective of other people in order to know why are they acting that way, for example if you were a manager and one employee was not working hard it wont be emotionally intelligent to directly assume that he is lazy or not keen to work, instead you should examine his case closer to know what are his emotional reasons behind this, and maybe you find that he is afraid to mistake, maybe you find that he lacks self confidence in his abilities or maybe you find any other reason behind his behaviour.

emotional intelligence examples

Taking two persons as an example the first is someone who is not emotionally intelligent while the other is, both of them had a big fight at work with their bosses and on returning home the first did shout at his children on the first possible chance. This was because of acting based on his emotions without thinking about them in an emotionally intelligent way.

when the second person returned home and found that the kids were noisy he just told himself, “well, why should I shout at the kids, they are not the ones to blame for my feelings, they always play using that loud voice and its just that I am feeling bad today because of my fight with my boss”So as we can see, that person recognized his emotions, thought about them, then acted in an emotionally intelligent way.

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