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Why do people sometimes become Aggressive?

I am sure that you have went through at least one situation in your life where you have found yourself being excessively aggressive then felt guilty for it later. I am also sure that you met some people who always seem to be aggressive whatever the situation is. Why are those people always aggressive and why do you sometimes become aggressive too?

Frustration Aggression Theory

The frustration aggression theory states that aggression is caused by frustration. When someone is prevented from reaching his target, he becomes frustrated. This frustration then can turn into aggression when something triggers it. For example, if you failed in your final exam, you will definitely become frustrated. What if someone you barley know told you “You are such a loser not to pass that exam”. In this case, your stored frustration will surely turn into aggression. Note that the frustration aggression theory does not provide explanation to all types of aggression but it rather focuses on aggression that prevents you from reaching your aim.

Aggressive people need special treatment

If you found someone acting in an aggressive manner know that behind this aggression is some kind of frustration, your goal should be allowing that person to release his feelings of frustration in a constructive way. Confronting him with the main causes of his aggression may be sometimes a good solution but it can be dangerous with exaggeratedly aggressive people. Your focus should be on letting him dump his feelings without being aggressive.

Aggression Frustration and Success

You may have now concluded why some people who have type A personality become aggressive. They are aggressive because they are frustrated as they didn’t attain their goals yet. Working for longer periods of time and working on holidays are clear signs of frustration that is the result of unmet goals. This is not a bad thing at all but on the contrary it’s a healthy way to release the frustration. It's much better than becoming aggrieved and short tempered person.

Frustration and Depression

If the frustration was not properly vented, it may turn into depression. Suppose that you wanted to become rich but you couldn’t find a job. If you didn’t find a way to let go your frustration, the suppressed emotions may turn into depression. Also people who are not assertive always feel frustrated due to the daily violation of their rights which may gradually result in depression. The bottom line is to find a way to free your frustration not to turn it into depression. Work hard, become assertive or have faith in God, It doesn’t matter how you do it, all what matters is to find a healthy way to release these suppressed emotions.

Frustration and breakups

One of the main reasons people fail to recover from breakups is the feelings of frustration. In my book How to get over anyone in few days i described how can some false beliefs such as "He is my soul mate" or "he is the one" cause the person frustration after a breakup thus preventing him from recovering. In this case the person thinks that the only solution lies in bringing back his old lover and so he stays frustrated. This frustration is then turned into depression and the person gets stuck in this stage. Getting over such a problem is very simple, learn how to deal with these false beliefs and you will break the whole cycle of false beliefs-frustration-depression.

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