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What is a healthy relationship?

A healthy relationship is a relationship that started because of real love between a couple and not because of an unhealthy need that both couples needed to satisfy. Everyday millions of people start new relationships because of their desire to compensate for their weaknesses, their need to deal with a past unfinished business and their desire to feel worthy.

Although each relationship may contain some of the previous factors to a certain extent still its not healthy to have a relationship that was started solely because one of the partners wanted to fix a problem that he couldn't deal with in his past.

An example of an unhealthy relationship

Suppose that a girl didn't manage to get enough care from her father who was always absent, getting into a relationship just to attempt to get back the lost nurturing may result in an unhealthy relationship. In this case, she will turn from being a loving partner to a control freak who wants her man to give her all the care in the world else she would not become satisfied. (See relationship dissatisfaction)

Once the desire to control the other person enters into the relationship love must escape. This girl will always be obsessed by fears that arise from not wanting her man to be like her father, and this will result in making her try to have more control over her partner.

The controlling behavior could be anything starting from not wanting to talk to him unless he changes his behavior up to shouting and screaming until he changes his mind. Getting mad, screaming and shouting is one of the very popular control tools people use in their relationships. The idea is simple, the person will always associate his partner's state with bad feelings and so he will try to do his best not to let him/her go into this state.

This is the part where dishonesty comes into play, he/she will not want to say the whole truth in order to avoid the noise and so the relationship takes another step towards being unhealthy. In my book The ultimate guide to maintaining a healthy relationship i described how controlling behavior in addition to dishonesty can be the reason a relationship is ruined. If you want to have a healthy relationship then you must make sure that you avoid controlling behavior and dishonesty.

how to have a healthy relationship

How to be in a healthy relationship despite all of these variables that can make any relationship unhealthy?

The first advice i have is to get a solid understanding of love's psychology and the real drives behind loving someone. This kind of education will let you understand yourself and your partner more and eventually you will both get rid of fears that are preventing you from having a healthy relationship.

The other thing you should do is to be honest, dishonesty can ruin any relationship in a short period of time and even if the relationship was sustained, sooner or later the truth will be revealed and the other partner will want to divorce.

Finally you must get proper education on relationships in order to fix the wronged ideas that the media has filled our minds with. The media is one of the strongest reasons that cause relationship dissatisfaction because both partners keep comparing their relationships to what they see in the movies and then come back feeling disappointed.

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