Body language: Common pitfalls

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Body language: common pit falls

There is a big possibility that you didn't manage to understand people's personality using body language with a high accuracy. If this happened to you then don't worry because there are some common pitfalls that people who are new to the body language don't take into consideration and so they get incorrect results.

Learning how to avoid pitfalls will help you read body language with a very high accuracy.

The pitfalls are as follows:

  • Cultural differences and body language: In body language there are some slight differences between cultures. For example, Italians may keep small private distance when talking to you while English people may keep a big distance. Interpreting the private distance in both cases without taking the cultural differences into consideration, may result in getting inaccurate readings.
  • Body language and thoughts If someone made the negative evaluation posture as soon as he saw you then this doesn't mean that he doesn’t like seeing you but instead he may have been thinking about a bad thing right before seeing you
  • Body language detects states of feelings and not personality: If you found someone taking the body languageconfidence posture then this does not mean that he is a confident person but it only means that he is feeling confident at the moment. However, you can still know someone's personality by watching for the repetition of the same postures over and over. If that person always takes the body language confidence position everywhere then he is confident by nature.
  • Body language and habits: some people have the habit of folding their arms or putting their hands in their pockets; make sure you filter out the habits in order to read body language correctly.
  • Use your mind some people may take the defensive posture because the weather is cold and others may scratch their nose because they just want to scratch it. To avoid wrong results use your mind in addition to the knowledge you have about body language
  • Gestures that have multiple meanings Some gestures have multiple meanings and that's why you can only make good use of them if you tried to understand them within the context of the situation. For example a person usually folds his arms when he gets defensive but this doesn't always mean that he took that gesture because he felt shy as he might have taken it because he felt offended
  • Believing in nonsense without testing it: Most sites that talk about body language give incorrect information that is copied from inferior sources. Before you accept a new fact about body language test it on yourself. Try to find out whether this gesture really have the meaning you read about. If you found it correct then keep it else discard it because wrong body language information is more popular than correct information

Body language takes time

Don't be in a rush. It will take you sometime before you master the gestures you learned about. Of course there is a lot you can do from the first day using body language but just be patient until your mind absorbs these new facts.

In my book, How to make someone fall in love with you i described how the use of body language can help you become more attractive. If you used the body language of confidence you will appear more attractive and so increase the chance of attracting people to you.

2knowmyself is, without doubt, the only complete guide to body language information on the entire internet. If you dare challenge this statement, then check the 2knowmyself’s body language section and you will know what I am talking about.

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