why we dislike people at first sight

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

why we dislike people at first sight

An anchor in neuro linguistic programming (NLP) is the situation where two different events become connected together in your mind so that when one of them happens it reminds you of the second.

An example of an anchor is remembering an old memory when you hear a certain Song. But what do anchors have to do with looks?

In fact you could remember a person when you see someone who looks likes him and even assume that they both have the same personality.

An example of anchors that are related to looks

Suppose for example that you knew someone who was very nice to you and that you liked him. Next time when you meet someone who looks like that person you may automatically like him even if he didn't do anything good to you.

In that case the person's looks were anchored to his deeds. That's why some people hate other people without even talking to them and that's one of the reasons love at the first sight exists.

That's also why someone may dislike your looks although you don't look bad. It just happened because of his own background and past experiences and not because of your looks. This means that people don't see others objectively but instead so many other factors might influence their judgement.

Self image problems and anchors

Many people who are already attractive suffer from a self image problem or even believe that they are ugly.

By understanding a concept such as the anchors that are connected to looks you can conclude that even if someone told you that he doesn't like your looks still it doesn't mean that you look bad. See Why we dislike the looks of some people

The problem in such a case might be with the person's perception and not with your looks.

Child abuse and being haunted by the past

Some of the people who suffered from child abuse start seeing their abusers everywhere. Because the minds of those people think that people who look alike act the same they sometimes feel insecure around those who remind them of their abusers.

A guy who was bullied by his classmates might actually feel threatened whenever he comes across any person who resembles them in a way or another.

Learning how to fix these perception problems is a very important step in healing many of the psychological wounds you might be suffering from.

All of this happens on the subconscious level

All of this processing usually takes place unconsciously inside the brain. In other words in most cases you won't have a clue why you like or hate a certain person but instead you will just experience the emotion.

Now the good thing about educating yourself about such a concept is that next time you will easily be able to tell why you are getting that particular feeling when you see a certain person.

Don't fool yourself into thinking that you disliked someone because he has negative energy because it might just be your own past that is causing those feelings.

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