Why are some people players (the psychology of players)

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Why are some people players (the psychology of players)

Before i learned psychology i used to see the world in a different way. Back then i never knew that i was seeing a distorted reality that resulted from my lack of knowledge about the human nature.

I am sure the same exactly is happening to you now.
What usually comes to your mind when you know that someone is a player?
Do you think that he is cool, attractive, interesting and loved?

From the outside players appear to be confident, popular and balanced but when taking a look at the inside you will find things that you would have never imagined to find and you will see things that the player would have never wanted you to see.

If you are a player and you managed to reach this article by chance then you are taking a great step towards self understanding and if you are not a player then its time to see the real world.

In this article i will tell you why are some people players.

Why are some people players

First of all i am not talking about people who have lots of fans, who are loved by the many or who are popular. In fact i have some fans too but i am talking about people who try to attract everyone around them (and who usually succeed).

The following are some psychological reasons that could make someone become a player:

  • Testing their might: Because some people are not sure of themselves and because they never got the chance to know who they truly are they started a journey for seeking external proofs. Those people usually turn into players who master the art of attracting others in order to get one thing from them, Approval!! Many of the players you see around you are people who have low self esteem and who are trying to elevate their self worth by collecting as many admirers as possible
  • Most Players feel unloved and insecure: Oh that guy is really cool, he is like Casanova!! in fact that guy might be feeling unloved and insecure. Many of the people you call players feel insecure and unloved and that's why they try to use romantic relationships to feel that people need them. They move from one relationship to another with the goal of feeling wanted and desired (see I need to be loved)
  • Most Players have self doubts: Many players have doubts that no one knows about except them. Some of them are unsure of their personalities, others are unsure of their looks while a third group might not be even sure that they are worthy. Because of these unmet needs many of those people become players as they found that the only way to get rid of their doubts is to collect as much fans as they can (see Unmet needs psychology)
  • Messed up life: Some people claim that they work all day because they love work while in fact they don't have friends. Some other people become players because they didn't manage to succeed in other life areas and that's why they hide behind the identity of a player because it makes them feel worthy (see Psychological identity problems)

Are you a player?

If you consider yourself a player then there is a very big chance that your subconscious defense mechanism were already launched to devalue this article, the words in it and even the person who wrote it and that's another self deception attempt your subconscious mind is using against you. (see The psychology of self deception)

If you are a normal person who thinks that players are superior to you or that they posses something that you don't posses then i just have one phrase to tell you "Welcome to the real world"

In the Solid Self confidence program i said that two people can feel inferior to each other without knowing that they both have that same feeling.

A player could feel inferior to a person who is successful in his career if he wasn't as successful as him and that same successful person might feel inferior to a player because of thinking that the is cooler than him.

Do yourself a favor and read more articles on 2kowmyself.com in order to see the real world.

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