Love psychology

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Love Psychology

Why do people fall in love?
Why do people day dream about celebrities then marry others who don't look like them?
Why do people who are so different get into a relationship together?

Yesterday i was talking to one of my friends and he told me "I really wonder why doesn't she like me, i am really good and i have got lots of good qualities" i replied saying "you need to have good qualities according to her own point of view not yours"

In this article i will tell you more about love psychology so that i reveal the mystery of falling in love and answer the previous questions.

Why do people fall in love

People are born clean without anything in their head
As they grow up they form beliefs about themselves, the world and the people around them. They face difficult situations, go through tough experiences and learn hard lessons.

Based on all of these events that take place in their lives they come up with a list of traits that should be present in their potential partners and they also come up with a list of things that shouldn't be present in them. This list can be called the love map, the unconscious criteria or the love list. See What is a love map.

If for example a girl was cheated on and as a result she was hurt badly then most probably any man who looks like a cheater or who resembles her old partner will turn her off.

On the other hand if a man had low self esteem he might be attracted to any person who makes him believe that he is worthy.

Of course these are very simple examples but they demonstrate how this love list works. In other words there is no mysterious force behind love but it's the fact that humans have many needs ,that they try to satisfy through a relationship partner, that motivates them to fall for others.

I totally understand that what you have seen in the movies and read in the novels go against that but the problem is that those commercial products are created by people who know that promoting certain beliefs , even if they were not true, will bring them lot's of money. And yes the trick does magic for them. See Why is love not like in the movies?

In other words love stems from your psychological needs and not from any kind of mysterious force that cannot be understood.

Why love seems magical to people

The reason love seems so magical to people is that the whole process is controlled by their subconscious minds. In other words most people find themselves attracted to others without having any clue why this happened.

The fact that everything runs in the background makes some people think that love is mysterious, magical or controlled by the soul. When a person becomes more aware of their love map , or the things they want to find in a potential partner the mystery goes away and the person develops a strong understanding of themselves.

So how to make a person fall in love with you?

In my book How to make someone fall in love with you i said that the first step you need to do to impress a person is to understand how they think, the beliefs that they have about themselves and about the world.

After that you should project a certain side of your personality that has all the qualities that this person is looking for.

If this sounds hard let me tell you that it's as easy as picking the clothes you wear before you hang out with friends. When you go to a formal event you will want to wear a suit but when you go to the beach you will need a swimsuit.

The same goes for people. You can't just try to display random traits hoping that they will like them but you have to understand what each person is looking for. Once you give a person what they are looking for then attachment can happen.

So if making someone fall in love with you is very easy then why do most people fail to do it?

Because the hard part is the information collection and it's the part that most people never manage to do well. If you collected enough information about a person then making them fall in love with you will be a piece of cake.

The other factors that determine who we love

Our relationship with our parents greatly determines the people we get attracted to. After all the parents are the first people we interact with and our relationship with them, especially the opposite sexed parent, will determine how we will deal with the other people we encounter. See Why you should meet the parents before dating someone

Also the childhood wounds that people develop greatly affects their romantic preferences. If a person was emotionally wounded then they will always seek people who can help them heal this wound. This is why so many people have the problem of falling for the same abusive partners all the time. It's just that their emotional wounds always force them to find some people attractive. See why your world revolves around your childhood wounds

I could go on forever giving various examples but i believe you already got the concept. Whatever happens to a person affects their love map and as a result they find certain people attractive but not others.

This concept also extends to include physical looks. You might believe that people like certain looks because of superficial reasons but in fact the different psychological factors can alter people's perception of beauty and force them to develop types. This is one reason why people have types and hardly get attracted to any other type. See Why do some people have types

The book How to make someone fall in love with you was released by; the book will dramatically increase your chance of letting someone fall in love with you.

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