Love and Compensation

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Love and Compensation

One of the main reasons for falling in love with someone is compensating for our unmet needs.

Feelings of inferiority, unmet needs and the desire to compensate can be the main reason we fall in love.

Certainly you will never find a person who says something like "omg i love this girl, she allows me to compensate for my self image problem" but instead this happens unconsciously.

You will just think that you love someone because he is interesting, nice, kind or caring while in fact its your desire for compensation that made you fall in love with him.

I am not saying that this is the only reason for falling in love but certainly its one of many other factors. By understanding your unmet needs you will certainly be able to know why you sometimes fall in love with certain people.

Examples for compensation through love

  • Poor self image and Love:If someone has a poor self image (a mental disorder that makes the person unsure of his looks) then most probably he will only fall in love with good looking people.
  • Social Class and Love: Some people have unmet needs within a certain social class. This could happen with a middle class guy who always finds himself surrounded by rich friends. If he failed to develop good relationships with them or if he was rejected by them then he might not fall in love except with a girl from that social class just to compensate for the rejection he experienced earlier.
  • Lack of self confidence and love: If a girl lacks self confidence then most probably she will become attracted to confident people. This isn't the case with self confidence only but the desire to compensate ignites whenever someone finds people possessing what he lacks

More examples for love and compensation

There are hundreds of examples that can be provided about falling in love just to compensate for a certain need however i don't want to make this article any longer.

In fact one of the main reasons people fail to recover from breakups is the desire to compensate for their needs. In my book How to get over anyone in few days i explained how the need for compensation can make the person feel really bad after a breakup just because he lost his source of compensation.

If this happened to you before then i strongly recommend that you try to fix your problems and fulfill your unmet needs so that you don't make the wrong choice. People who fall in love just to compensate for their needs usually make the wrong choices!

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